@okay  wow, your reply indicates you probably have a perfect relationship with your father, hence the reason why you are defending her father completely. Your disagreement towards her actions & feelings towards her father even after she explains certain instances how he has rejected her, suggests that you are a really insensitive & uncaring person. We all test people for various reasons, myself included, simply because there is no other option when it comes to people in our lives with narcissistic traits ,,, who are supposed to love us. Since you don't seem to relate to anything she has written which has clearly caused her obvious sadness & heartache, I wonder why you felt it necessary to even reply with comments that seem to invalidate her feelings. His rejection has continued for decades but you think it most likely is due to him thinking she needs space? For decades? His actions & behaviour towards her clearly show the relationship is not a healthy one or ever has been. The fact is that her story is very common even though a father daughter relationship is not meant to be anything but perfect. Well, I can relate to her as my father is very similar, infact even worse. I can also tell you that rejection by fathers similar to ours isn't due to them wanting to give us "space" at all. It is because they are narcissistic & they actually DONT Care!! Even If i didnt relate to what she's going through, I definitely would not reply with a comment suggesting the problem lies with her, especially when I couldn't possibly know or even begin to understand what she has been going through & the depth of her despair. Invalidating her feelings the way you have shows you have zero empathy towards people & lack any sort of understanding with emotional abuse.