So here’s a theory…what if Kategate is all just a setup to distract from what’s really going on with Charles?
The thing I wish every parent knew - and even I, as a teacher, didn’t realise until my kids were at high school- is to lovingly ignore two thirds of their complaints. Kids, especially in high school, have to bottle their emotions during the day. Home is a safe place to empty their backpack and their emotional lunchbox. Listen and soothe, let them release in a safe place but understand that it is often a huge over reaction. Why, because they need a safe place to rant. Just like you come home and whinge about the person who left the photocopier empty- but you don’t except your partner to set up a meeting with the boss to mediate a response. Let them safely deflate, show they are heard and give them space to action something if they need to (not you because we want to fix things). Above all, trust teachers, we are working our brows into wrinkles trying to build their resilience and help them fly.
We do it for the relationships , but when it impacts the relationship with yourself it’s natural to question your career path.
I am so sorry for your pain. The loss of a sibling puts fault lines in your foundations. When I lost my Dad it was hard, but expected. He had lived a long life and had many accomplishments. The death of my brother, 8 weeks ago has shaken my core. Brothers aren’t supposed to die young. Thank you for your suggestions.
I feel somewhat apprehensive that I am moving into the grief season. I used to catch with old friends at weddings and birthdays and now it’s at funerals. Not sure if I’m old enough for my 50s.
I can’t believe I feel sympathy for Serena! It’s a clever twist. By walking in June’s shoes, Serena can finally challenge her Gilliad principles. I feel a change a-coming.
My third and final child moved out last week. The hole in my soul is deep. I am overwhelmed by the contradictory emotions of loss and pride, currently doing battle in my heart..Today loss is winning. Your article is so accurate, I was there yesterday. You want to enjoy them without suffocating them and feel this urgent compulsion to pass on your worldly knowledge. Yes, enjoy every moment. Can part two of your article be any empty nest survival guide?