For Radha, dinner is served at 7. She crouches down behind a shed, a good distance from her house, then waits. She knows what the menu will be: boiled rice, the same as yesterday and the day before. She knows that it will be her little sister who will serve it, throwing the rice onto her plate from a height, the way you would feed a dog.
In Jamu, Radha’s village in western Nepal, her status is lower than a dog’s, because she is menstruating. She is only 16, yet, for the length of her period, Radha can’t enter her house or eat anything but boiled rice. She can’t touch other women – not even her grandmother or sister – because her touch will pollute them.
If she touches a man or a boy, he will start shivering and sicken. If she eats butter or buffalo milk, the buffalo will sicken too and stop milking. If she enters a temple or worships at all, her gods will be furious and take their revenge, by sending snakes or some other calamity.
Here, menstruation is dirty, and a menstruating girl is a powerful, polluting thing. A thing to be feared and shunned.
After dinner, Radha prepares for bed. Darkness falls fast in Jamu and without mains electricity, the villagers follow old rhythms and sleep with the dark. Radha’s parents are both migrant workers in India, so she lives with her grandmother. Their house has a solar-powered light, as does the one opposite, where I’m staying with my travelling companions: the Communications and Gender Officer for WaterAid Nepal and our photographer.
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Lets not judge it as bad but restrictive _
Yeah restrictions are usually shit but we all impose false restrictions on ourselves. Different levels of acceptable behaviour are all around. It's unacceptable she feels dirty for a natural process but her superstitions are hers to hold.
The west has stupid things aswell. We're not perfect - our consumerism implies if we purchase wads of chemically inhanced cotton and shove them inside us - we also use drugs to alleviate the pains natural process - countless chemicals to wash our bodies to rid our bodies of any trace of the event. Slather fossil fuel based gels on or ground talcum powder which may link to cancer when applied to nether regions- to inhibit any random human smells. Are we so different to her.
We believe the blood to be just as filthy and gross. Your not going to see people put a tampon in general bin like they would a band aid. Menstral blood is considered filth by western culture aswell- you would not be able to eat at a table in a resteraunt and just smell and bleed all over the place.
Tampons are not common (and don't need to be) in Nepal - the girls expierience te pains and grossness in full- but it doesn't make them bad it's just different. The unable to go to school is more then just the bleed. It's a mix of all the social expectations and lack there of from girls. This has to change but I kinda think if we were aloud to connect to our bodies in a more honest state there could be a bit more respect for the process. Our bodies are amazing and restrictions can be annoying but they exist in all cultures. The access to schooling in a more flexible non male dominated manner should be embraced and allow for time off and not impose those implications we need to be male like at all times. Sometimes the woman in us needs to roar not cower to our male similarities! I am woman and I menstruate - we should imagine if a world was built for our needs like our male needs- eat well there's a lunch break- have kids well there's maternity leave- have your rags well there days to study and self reflect meditate.
This is a great response. I resent the idea that I should suit up & go to work like a man when I am dizzy & in pain & bleeding heavily. I resent the fact I'm expected to take drugs for the pain and soldier on. If I rang work and sai today's the worst day of my period so I'm not coming in, there'd be no sympathy and I'd eventually lose my job. In NO WAY do I mean to imply my life is anything like those poor women in developing countries, but I don't think we have it all completely sussed in the West.
Mamamia, you need to post more articles like this that highlight the struggles and inequities that women are facing in the world. Not articles that pit women against each other for their choices regarding motherhood, breast feeding, birthing method or working status. Articles like this show just how much more we have to do for the women and children in the world that don't have a voice. Thank-you.