Why are women so bitter about other women getting a better deal?
“I had my daughter over 20 years ago and I got zip. So shut up and suck it up.”
“Yet most people seem to be able to afford disposable nappies? If people make selfish choices, then yup, the Government will need to step in.”
“I think it’s disgusting that stay-at-home mums think they have a right to put their kids in daycare so they can have a break.”
“If you can’t afford to have kids, STOP HAVING THEM.”
When the Government’s proposed changes to paid parental leave and childcare subsidies were revealed earlier this week, it was mum vs mum in online forums. Things got very nasty very quickly. While some women reacted with horror when they found out they were going to be worse off financially, other women almost seemed to be gloating. There was a theme that kept popping up in the comments: Why should you get more help with bringing up your kids than we did?
It's funny how, in some ways, women are glad that the situation for younger working women has improved over the years. More opportunities for women to get promoted. Less tolerance of sexual harassment in the workplace. No one ever says, "Women should have to stick to being secretaries, like I did."
But when it comes to government benefits helping new mums, that's a different story. There's a surprising amount of bitterness out there. If we didn't get this kind of money, then you shouldn't either. Don't some of these mothers wish things had been a bit easier for them? Don't they wish they'd had a few less financial stresses? Don't they want a better deal for their friends, or their sisters, or their daughters?
This is an important issue. There are a lot of things to consider.
Sure, having children is a choice (most of the time) and it's a privilege and it's a joy and all that. But at the same time, it's a necessity for the country. Less babies would mean less people buying nappies and 4WDs and five-bedroom houses. Less kids would mean less jobs for teachers. Less adults would mean less taxes to fund pensions. And so on.