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Is it normal that... my parents won't pay for my wedding?

My parents think I’m too old for them to be paying  for my wedding. Now I don’t know what I’m going to do

It took me a while to meet a man I wanted to marry. Dean and I are both in our early 30s and after two years of dating are ready to get married and start a family. Except we’ve hit a bit of a roadblock.

I always assumed my parents would pay for my wedding. I'm the only daughter in my family and I'm also the first child to get married. My brothers are in their 20s and are nowhere near settling down.

Dean and I went to my parent's place for dinner last night to announce our big news. After lots of hugs and kisses I sat down with my dad to chat about the details and as we talked, I got the impression he wouldn't be paying for it.

I said a lot of things like, "Where do you think we should hold the reception?" and he just said, "You are both old enough to decide that for yourselves," so I said, "We'll you're paying so I want you to be happy with it" and he said, "You're both in your 30s lucky you don't need me to pay for you to get married."

I was completely shocked.

Dean and I do earn good money and we could probably scrape together enough for a small ceremony, but I assumed my parents would at least contribute to the cost. I know that Dean's parents would if they could. At least I assume they would.

I got the impression that if I were in my 20s my parents would be happy to pay for it and I feel like I'm being punished for not finding the man I wanted to marry sooner.

I feel really hurt.

Should parents pay for their daughter's wedding no matter how old they are?

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