Just before Christmas last year, Australian cricketer Nathan Lyon was pictured with another woman while – at least publicly – he was married with two children.
Now, his former wife Mel Waring has started a blog called Life of Lyons, detailing her new life as a single mum to Harper and Milla.
This is a recent post from her blog.
I wasn’t sure what being really alone would feel like, being shut out from him. Since saying goodbye it hadn’t really hit me. We have lived a life where he has constantly travelled, cricket was life and touring was a given. Daddy’s at cricket, it’s easy to forget. Today has been different, I have been strong, I have been brave but today I feel weak, I feel small and I feel alone.
There are words that ring in my ear, that the girls and I don’t need to worry about anything and that they will always come first. These words should give comfort in something so painful yet that’s far from how life is feeling for us right now.
I’m constantly reminded that the team of people who were once there for us both are no longer my friends but my enemy. The words trust no one, have become true and I’m reminded that while he has a team of people around him, protecting him, making life for him easy, I do not.
I wish the words that came from his mouth were true, yet how can they be after being lied to for so long. If anything I have learnt they mean nothing, so why is it so hard to believe.
I feel proud of the mother I am, I work hard to do whatever is necessary to care for and protect my children. They will always be my first and only priority. My words and my actions are the same, no amount of advice or people will tell me how to go about this. We wanted to do it our way, what worked for us and our children yet I’m the only one remembering that.
How is it so easy, to make decisions so hurtful and expect life to just go on like normal. Why am I made to feel so small when my job here with our children should mean so much more.
This post was republished with full permission. It originally appeared on Mel’s wonderful new blog Life of Lyons. For more from Mel, you can find her on Instagram here.
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"I’m constantly reminded that the team of people who were once there for us both are no longer my friends but my enemy. The words trust no one, have become true and I’m reminded that while he has a team of people around him, protecting him, making life for him easy, I do not."
Said "team" refers to the cricket team with which her ex plays, yes? This is a really weird perception. Those are his workmates. Even though they may be united at work (ie all pitching in together to win a match), it's a bit of a stretch to suggest the whole team is invested or even interested in each other's relationships, to the point that they care enough to draw sides. I have a real job (ie one that doesn't involve sport), and I don't give a crap about whether my workmates are cheating on their partners, who they are going out with, what's going on in their relationships - and I don't want to know. The writer appears to be mixing up the role of workmates, and the role of friends. I daresay she is not without the latter.
I think this may refer to more than other cricketers. He has PR agents, managers and support staff. They were once, no doubt, there for her too as part of the package. Now, they focus on his wellbeing while she, gets tossed to the curb. Not only that but the support of the WAGS are to their husbands and their loyality is possibly no longer with her. I feel for her and hope she finds her feet and lives well without such a sod!!
Again, the accoutrements of work (PR staff, managers etc etc) are still just workmates. My point is that it's a bit of a stretch to be claiming the ex has all the support and she doesn't. Are we to assume she's without a friend in the world?
Exactly - his PR staff, manager and support staff are there for him because he's the player, the worker, the earner, not her. Their relationship has nothing to do with them, other than she was friendly with the other players' partners. Relationships sadly break down - you can't make somebody love you. Move on with some dignity and stop putting your personal life out there - it's getting rather ridiculous.
certainly not trained people who professionally deal with such a public fallout. Hopefully she has some good family around her to pick up the pieces he left behind!