While you are unlikely to ever know for sure if your parent has narcissistic personality disorder, there are some definite red flags that can determine whether a parent has narcissistic traits.
With traits including a lack of empathy, love-bombing, laser-focused attention, excessive entitlement and the need for admiration, narcissists can quickly become draining, toxic and incredibly difficult to deal with.
For children in particular, having a narcissistic parent can be extremely damaging.
Speaking to INSIDER, trauma therapist and author of Healing from Hidden Abuse Shannon Thomas explained how narcissistic parents often tend to pit their children against their siblings.
“Narcissistic parents create tension among all family members, and sometimes it’s very covert tension, but it is at a chronic level,” Thomas explained.
“They will triangulate siblings, they spin stories, they tell half truths, and you start to notice the pattern, just like in a romantic relationship, of how they create that chaos.”
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According to Thomas, narcissistic parents tend to treat their children very differently.
While one child is treated above all others as the favourite, the favourite child’s siblings often become the scapegoat of the family.
Although the favourite child is treated with upmost respect and adoration, the scapegoat child of the family is often neglected and treated poorly.
For example, while you’re likely to see a narcissistic parent attending every single event, awards ceremony or sporting game their favourite child is involved in, there’s no chance you’ll see them attending the same events for their scapegoat child.
