“I have noticed that being pregnant opens up women to a whole new world of criticism.”
Too big, too small, too high, too low. If they exercise, or lie on the couch. If they dress in body hugging lycra or bikini on the beach. It seems that once a woman is pregnant her appearance becomes public property to dissect, discuss and openly criticise.
Melbourne Fashion blogger Nadia Bartel has opened up about the barrage of comments she has received during her pregnancy and how shocked she is that her body has become an open forum for discussion.
In a revealing blog post the wife of Geelong footballer, Jimmy Bartel has described how, since becoming pregnant she has been judged by perfect strangers for how much she “ate, wore or worked.”
The 30-year old, who is now 34-weeks pregnant writes that she has been asked why her baby bump was not “big enough” and asked if her “doctor was okay with it.”
“Before getting pregnant (and now), I would never even think to comment on a lady’s bump size, (other than to think how beautiful it is). Or to judge her on what she is eating, wearing or how much she is working. ”
She says that making the leap into pregnancy was hard enough for her. ” I always pushed off the idea (it scared the living hell out of me and still kind of does) because I didn’t think it was possible to be a career girl and a mum at the same time. How could I do both of these demanding jobs well?!
My hubby would have loved to have children earlier (I know he is perfection in every way). As much as I loved the idea of having a little family with him, I felt like I needed more time. I am so lucky that he has been super supportive.”
She says that around four-months she struggled with how her body felt “My boobs were out of control and my bum and thighs were also growing rapidly. I didn’t have a proper bump at this stage, but none of my clothes are fitting right. You just don’t feel like you at all. Of course this is fine, as your body needs to change to be able to carry your little bubba.”
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It is never OK for strangers on the street to provide unsolicited commentary on your appearance! It's actually a form of street harassment.
I am of average height and weight and I've always been self conscious of being or feeling a bit chunky as I've had periods of being at an unhealthy weight. A decade ago (deep breath, before the term selfie was coined let alone mummy blogging as a way to earn a living) with my first pregnancy, I experienced the same comments about my own baby bump (which I corresponded with Princess Mary's pregnancy minus the Prada ensembles). I spent a bomb on maternity outfits and spent most of the pregnancy at 14 weeks in anticipation of a basketball bump only to wear my normal work clothes with minor adaptations for the next 6 months. I lost track of how many 'I didn't realise you were pregnant' or 'you must be having a small baby' comments. My eminently sensible OBs was worth her fees in the reassurance she gave after her envious diagnosis of tight tummy muscles; something of an irony having spent a lifetime avoiding rigorous exercise. After the delivery at term of a perfectly healthy 3.26kg daughter I was sad at having only the slightest jelly wobble in my tummy and mourned the fact I had no photos of my pregnant self beyond our baby moon at 32 weeks (As I said it was the Pre-selfie age). Long story short, my second pregnancy produced another late blooming but more conventionally shaped bump with a stack of fluid retention at the end and the third child's bump replicated the first. It also had nothing to do with baby gender (all girls) and birth weight (all within 200g in descending order). I think we just need to stop equating pregnancy with obesity and chronic ill health.