Women are struggling under the pressures of motherhood and risking their health in an attempt to live up to society’s image of ‘super mum’, new research says.
The study, commissioned by baby food brand Bellamy’s, found social media is largely to blame for making it easy for family, friends and the general public to heap the pressure on.
We all know just how much many mums tend to put their children first and themselves last, and the research shows just how much mounting parenting pressures can hurt a mum’s health.
Many mums put their children first, and their own health last. Image via iStock.
Nine out of 10 women neglect their own health and nutrition in order to be a good mum, but then many are made to feel bad for not looking or feeling their best.
The research looked into the health habits of Australian mothers and also the enormous pressures and judgement mums face. It revealed that almost two thirds of mums feel unfairly judged if they do not lose baby weight quickly enough after giving birth, while more than half feel judged about their appearance when they step out in public.
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I would like to see research into why so many people both hand away so much power to strangers, and why they believe they should have the right to dictate strangers thoughts. Accusations of 'shaming' are often little more than an attempt to shame someone into falling into line with your preferred opinion or narrative. Why are we as a society so simultaneously incredibly fragile about other peoples holding different opinions, and so determined to change their opinions instead of ignoring them or dismissing them as simply a difference of opinion? Research into why we are so fragile, in need of validation, and vulnerable to psychological injury in response to judgment, is research that I think desperately needs to be done.
I feel like it is an accountability issue. Instead of someone having to take stock and deal with why they are struggling or feel badly about themselves, it is easier to say that it is society's fault that they are "shamed" by others. Feeling like you have to be super mum is certainly not a new concept- I know my mum struggled with this 40 years ago, as I'm sure many others did even before that.
Obviously this is not always the case- there are legitimate cases of personal bullying that should be classified as shaming, but I think it has become just another buzz word that people are trying to apply to too many situations.
I understand your point but I think we need to be very careful about dismissing the feelings of mums in this way and placing the sole responsibility on their shoulders. That is a big cross to bare. We should acknowledge that there are genuine pressures in society and often those pressures come from the woman's family and dearest friends. In these cases, it's understandable that a woman would seek the approval of those closest to her, internalise their views and think something is fundamentally wrong with her if she doesn't live up to that. Articles like this let mothers know that others feel the same way and that they are not flawed or incompetent. They are normal. That is so important.
I do agree with you on that.