Warning: This post deals with themes of suicide and may be triggering for some readers.
Josh Taylor should be feeding his dogs this morning.
He should be riding his horses and teasing his sister and telling his Mum that he will get ready for school as soon as his favourite show is finished.
He should be racing out the door with his bag in his hand and a promise that he will mow the lawn when he gets home.
His mind should be full of his new pup and his horses and the new Angry Birds that’s out and he should be wondering what his best mate will think of his new trainers.
But Josh Taylor can’t do any of that.
Because Josh Taylor is dead.
And his mother believes that if bullying was stamped out in Australian schools her son would still be here by her side.
Cherie Taylor has written of her heartache at the suicide of her fourteen-year old son after he was bullied.
With schools around the country back for another year she has made a heartfelt plea for justice for her son – and for other parents to recognize the full extent of bullying in our schools.
Cherie Taylor’s son Josh died last year after incessant bullying began on his bus trip to school.
He was in year eight in his Brisbane school – and his Mum says she started becoming concerned when he began to catch the bus to school. His happy, mischievous demeanor turned inward.
He began to stay in bed, he refused to go out and he withdrew into himself.
She told the Courier Mail that her son was so fearful of bullies that he began stealing money to pay them to leave him alone.
“Bullies aren’t what they used to be, it’s big time now,” she said
“Money was getting stolen off us – $4000 went missing slowly and Josh shut up like a clam.
A family friend who set up a Facebook page wrote “he gave them his iPhone/ iPod, his laptop, his go card, passes to Dreamworld Etc. but that wasn’t enough the bullying continued to happen….. Josh began to become depressed and shut himself down”.
His mother has written for News Limited of his torment. She tells of how she decided to take him out of school when the bullying became too much for him to bear, but felt it was best to keep up the pretense that he was still going to his father.
He would stay at home with his mother and help her out on their property, then would change into his uniform in the afternoon and pretend to get the bus home with his sister.
Finally the school and his father found out and he was forced to return.
His mother writes:
“He seemed happy to do that and went back to school that Monday.
He came back happy and said: “Oh, mum it wasn’t so bad, it was good actually”.
I was over the moon but then something happened during “Anti-Bullying Week” and he lost it.
One week back at school and my Josh was dead.
After three days on life support Josh’s family were told he was “97% brain dead”.
His mother writes:
“So the doctor called an urgent family meeting and said: “I’m so sorry. Josh is going to die. He has about three hours. All the family need to say goodbye now.”
I ran to his room and begged him to come back to me. I was only able to cope as they dosed me up on Valium.
I was grabbing his hand. “Don’t do this Josh. You have to come back to me…come back to me.”
According to the National Centre against Bullying 27% of young people report they are bullied every two weeks or more.
Josh Taylor’s mum too pleads for bullying in schools to stop and for bullies to be held accountable. “I cry every morning. I wake up and realise once again it’s another day without my boy.
“I cry knowing there was no justice for Josh.”
If you or anyone you know needs help please call Lifeline 24/7 on 13 11 14 or Kids helpline on 1800 55 1800
Top Comments
This is such a sad story & my heart breaks for this family.
My daughter was bullied on a daily basis by a group of girls. Finally, she fought back ( nothing bad, she just pushed back on a door that was slammed in her face) but unfortunately she then got into trouble. Apparently, as she is extremely clever she should have known better & just walked away. I was told the other girls were jealous of my daughter, and they were having a rough time at home - the principal didn't want to make school difficult for them too. Suffice to say, my daughter never went back.... Whilst it was sad the bullies were having a difficult home life, I wasn't about to have my child think it was ok to have opened cans of tuna thrown at her so they could feel better.
I got bullied multiple times a day, every day from about grade 4 onwards till I graduated in year 12. It left me with a suicidal depression in year 10, I self-harmed, retreated into a world of computer games, grades failed as I was skipping school because I couldn't go back to be groped n pushed n hit n teased relentlessly. I was so close to ending it all myself so I can definitely empathize with this child....Stuff that happens regularly in school would get you jailed as an adult!
It left me with a very bad case of social anxiety disorder and for a decade I was unable to work much due to crippling fear, ended up being pretty much agoraphobic and being alone at home 90% of the time. The very thought of seeing people would give me sweats and my confidence was completely torn apart.
I don't think most people realize how bad bullying can get. It can steal so much from your life especially if you're a sensitive child who hasn't been taught coping skills...but can you really expect kids to cope when they're copping abuse that would easily get an adult put in jail? Where school is not a safe place, where doing good at schoolwork gets you bullied even harder for being smart, where being fat is a crime to these other kids, where you're nipple twisted and groped on the manboobs daily, a few times a day even and the only way to stop it is to hit the bully and hope they become afraid of you. Being tripped and breaking your arm as one of the first experiences you remember of year 8....
Just dreadful; so sorry this happened to you Archy. Made me feel very sad to read this.
Thanks, I guess it just makes me stronger. There are a lot of people who've had a lot of damage done to them and we just don't do enough to stop it sadly.