Nobody should ever have to look at the face of a parent at their child’s funeral. It’s not something you will ever forget and it’s not something anyone should ever have to experience. Yesterday, I was among hundreds of mourners who watched as two broken parents, Danielle and Richard, said goodbye to their beautiful little boy Millar.
Millar had just turned seven. For almost a year exactly, he battled brain cancer.
And his mum Dan and dad Rich battled alongside him, with the ferocious love of the devoted parents they are. Every moment, when he was awake and when he was asleep, they were there and he was surrounded by love. From his mum and dad, his sister and brother, his grandparents and friends and extended family and the extraordinary nursing and medical and support staff at the Sydney Children’s Hospital.
There were many unforgettable things about Millar’s funeral. The music. The children – his friends – who sat quietly next to their parents. The composure of his father to deliver a beautiful tribute. The bravery of his mother being even able to stand upright. The cheeky smile of that beautiful boy illuminated on giant screens in photo after photo. The slideshow and videos that reminded everyone of how much life and joy he packed into his shockingly too-short years.
The way his community banded around his family to hold them up, sometimes literally, with arms and love and the brightly coloured clothes everyone wore. Red was Millar’s favourite colour. The Sydney Swans his favourite team.