To all the mothers feeling guilty and judged,

Mia Freedman (left) and Em Rusiano (right).

1. You don't need to pick (this is the most important one).

Family versus career. Stop it. This is not an either-or argument. It’s not like one day you’re given two boxes and Grant Denyer says “kids or career” and you have to choose just one and whichever one you choose that’s it for life. It’s not like that. Being a working mother is a spectrum that changes daily, sometimes hourly and you are constantly making decisions according to the demands of your work and your family. It’s fluid and evolving. Just like everything else in our lives from our relationships to our skin.

2. It’s OK to work because you want to not just because you have to.

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