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The 'marriage language' trend has people divided into two camps.

Shnookums. Baby. Hot stuff. Honey bun. Diddums. Lover. Boo boo. Boogerbutt. Sweetums. 

Couples have forever been using lovey dovey names to refer to their partners, and whether you call your other half ‘boo’ or not, we’ve all been known to be a bit soppy behind closed doors.

But now there’s a new trend emerging on TikTok and it’s inviting people to peek behind the curtain and see what couples are like when they’re in their natural habitats. And it’s certainly dividing the masses.

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The #marriagelanguage hashtag is doing the rounds on the social media platform with users jumping on the trend and opening up about the unique spin they put on words that only their partner would understand.

Take, for example, Emilie Shearer, who innocently enough got in on the action and filmed her partner explaining their special vocab which swapped out ‘swimps’ for ‘shrimps’ and ‘chimken’ instead of ‘chicken’.

@emshearer1 If ur not calling it chimken ur wrong #fyp #marriagelanguage #foryou #fiance #marriage #swimp ♬ Funny Song - Funny Song Studio & Sounds Reel

And the comments section is a real mixed bag. People either feel reassured by their own particular marriage language or are calling out the couple for their unsettling baby talk.

“I’m so glad we aren’t the only couple who switches letters or nicknames things to make them more entertaining. It’s funny to hear someone else’s,” wrote one user.

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“Maybe I don’t wanna get married,” shared another.

One user suggests it’s a cultural difference, positing that perhaps cutesy marriage language is more common in the US than it is in countries like the UK or Australia. One British woman created a TikTok and said that she would “punch” her husband in the throat if he ever tried to use “cringe” marriage language in the relationship, adding they prefer to “roast” each other to show affection.

Elsewhere on TikTok, relationships are under the microscope. Just this week, content creator Lilianna Wilde has been the subject of public scrutiny after she released a video explaining how she and her husband Sean engage in a ‘love surge’ when they want to show affection for each other.

@liliannawilde i’m so sorry we are like this lol but we can’t help it 😭♥️✨ @Sean Kolar #marriagehumor #marriagecomedy #husbandwife #husbandwifecomedy #husbandsoftiktok #couplecomedy #couple #husband #wife #couplestiktok ♬ when you love someone so much you cant contain it - Lilianna Wilde

It has since been viewed 7.4 million times and duetted up the wazoo by users making fun of their very open display of adoration. In response, Lilianna has made a video telling people to ease off on the negative feedback.

“I’m heartbroken over are [sic] the really awful things people are wishing on Sean and I,” she wrote in the caption. 

“Please think before you type, I’m very very lucky that my offline life is so wonderful that I can look away, but some people aren’t so lucky and for their sake please consider what you write.”

@liliannawilde i was doing really well and laughing a lot and then just hit a wall last night and everything got really overwhelming. and again, i’m not taking about some of the really funny duets/stitches, that’s part of posting on the internet and i accept that. what I’m heartbroken over are the really awful things people are wishing on Sean and I. please think before you type, I’m very very lucky that my offline life is so wonderful that I can look away, but some people aren’t so lucky and for their sake please consider what you write. #lovesurge ♬ original sound - Lilianna Wilde

The truth is, we can’t be out here policing the way people behave in their relationships offline or online. What you find cringe others might find cute. It’s all about finding the person who fits your vibe in a partnership.

If a love surge isn’t for you then look the other way. 

Feature Image: Tiktok.

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