A US woman has taken to Reddit to talk about her late term abortion. And for once, social media has shown it has a kind, gentle side.
Last week, Reddit user isitpinkisitpink was faced with a heartbreaking decision: terminate her late term pregnancy, or risk her own life by carrying a child that could never survive.
At her 20-week scan, her little girl, who was to be named Gwendolyn, was diagnosed with a range of genetic abnormalities, including Triploid Syndrome.
There was no way her baby could survive the condition – and if the pregnancy continued, the mother faced a very real chance of bleeding to death or suffering from preeclampsia.
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And so, she and her husband decided to terminate the pregnancy in the second trimester, at 23 weeks. And just hours later, she posted about that decision:
I am pro-choice because I am pro-life. Does that make sense? My little girl would never have a life, and attempting to give her that could take mine away in the process. It would be dangerous to attempt it.
Instead, she passed painlessly inside me and was never alone. She will be cremated and spread in a garden at the hospital where they scatter all the lost babies. To me, that is more dignified than bleeding out in the bathtub and having her go down the drain.
The woman, who described herself as someone who was “into running, playing Zelda, lifting and crossfit, Jeopardy, cooking, Harry Potter, Michigan Wolverines football, remodeling my house and maintaining my landscape”, posted that she and her husband had been moved to tears by the support received from other Reddit users.
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The amazing part? Many of those supportive Reddit users also happened to be staunchly pro-life.
She also described how “mother’s intuition” meant she knew something was wrong with the pregnancy well before she was officially diagnosed, and how she felt compelled to speak out about the ordeal.
I don’t want to be broken, and I don’t feel broken. That’s why I’m facing this head on and telling people about it no holds barred. Because it does happen, a lot, and we shouldn’t be afraid to talk about it.
While an exact figure is not known, it is estimated that around 100 late term abortions are performed in NSW each year.
Related: She begs for mercy from the Government and tries desperately to save her unborn baby.
And the more women like isitpinkisitpink who speak out about it, the better.
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Believe it or not "pro-lifers" are not monsters or anti-woman...
This is a terrible situation with no perfect solution.
A medical abortion should be performed to give a little dignity to the mother and the baby / foetus. I.e. To SPARE pain and suffering. Like here.
It makes me sad that SOME doctors do not use dignified means (e.g. Outright refusing to provide anesthetic to the baby because it "isn't human"), but many do truly care about their patients. It also makes me sad when women with babies with terminal defects choose to go ahead with the pregnancy and then get shamed for being irresponsible / selfish (I have see it happen). For some parents it is important that the baby is "whole" and they treasure those hours or minutes.
I wish both "sides" would have just a little bit more compassion for each other.
Obviously if the baby can't survive anyway, then this was the only logical decision to make. Obviously it must still have been a terribly heartbreaking realization.
No pro-lifer would advocate a woman endangering her own life for a baby with a non-survivable medical condition.
Agreed. 97% of nations allow abortion to save the mother's life, even when the baby does not have a terminal defect. My thoughts go with her, even though that can be no consolation. People should not downplay that she lost a child, a wanted child, because of a terrible circumstance.