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The one important thing missing from the Duggars' cover-up.

The Duggars failed the people they should have been protecting. And that’s a truth they can’t cover up.

There has been a lot of talk of the Duggars over the past few days.

The fact that they actively concealed their son’s sexual offences, the measures that they took in response and the extensive explanations they have given about Josh’s “mistakes” (you can read more about that here).

Related: The oldest Duggar son admits to sexually abusing young girls as a teen.

Fans of their reality show 19 Kids and Counting are very concerned about the how Josh is coping with these mistakes from his past being brought up so long after it happened (you can read more about the bizarre justifications that fans have for Josh’s assaults here). And many viewers feel betrayed by the show (including Mia, who wrote about feeling sucked in to the Duggar circus here).

But there is one question that has not been asked of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar. And it is the question that matters the most:

Who was protecting the interests of the five girls who were molested on the breasts and genitals by Josh Duggar while they lay in their beds? 

Four of Josh’s five victims were forced to live for years with their attacker. They were forced to watch on as their parents failed to act to protect them and waited years before reporting him to police. These girls smiled for the cameras of a reality TV show for TEN SEASONS, while the family kept their abuse a secret.

The horror of surviving an incestuous assault is devastating – but to be forced to live that nightmare unsupported and in the public eye is unimaginably cruel. Theirs is the voice that has not been heard in this discussion. It is their interest that has not been considered. They are the vulnerable group who was not made to feel precious by the people who should have cared for them the most.

Perhaps the most damning indictment on the family’s treatment of their daughters is in their public statements.

See below for social media reactions to Josh Duggar’s admission. Post continues after gallery.

Here’s how Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar explained their reaction to learning that their daughters were sexually assaulted in their own home: “When Josh was a young teenager, he made some very bad mistakes and we were shocked. We had tried to teach him right from wrong. That dark and difficult time caused us to seek God like never before. Even though we would never choose to go through something so terrible, each one of our family members drew closer to God.”

Let’s remember that Jim Bob found out about the first assaults in 2002 when Josh was 14. There were more offences in 2003, at which point Jim Bob decided to tell his church – not the police – and sent Josh to a religious program that “consisted of hard physical work and counselling.”

It was later revealed by Michelle that Josh wasn’t really sent to a counselling program – his parents simply sent him to work with a “guy they know in Little Rock” who was “kind of” a mentor. Then they told a State Trooper who was a friend of the family. That State Trooper is currently in jail for child pornography charges. Unsurprisingly, he did not pursue the Duggar’s case.

These are not the actions of parents concerned about the safety of their daughters. They are the actions of parents trying to cover up a family scandal. It’s worth remembering that at the time of the first offences, Jim Bob was a politician in Arkansas, and probably very motivated to ensure that no one knew he was harbouring a sex offender.

And then there’s Josh himself. Here’s how he has reconciled his crimes in his public statement: “Twelve years ago, as a young teenager I acted inexcusably for which I am extremely sorry and deeply regret. I hurt others, including my family and close friends. I confessed this to my parents who took several steps to help me address the situation….I understood that if I continued down this wrong road that I would end up ruining my life.”

According to his parents, Josh made “mistakes”. In his own words, if he had continued to assault children he would “end up ruining [his] life”.

His mistakes. His life. His relationship with God.

What about the girls? What about their horror, their safety, their childhood, their trust?

Many questions will be asked over the next few weeks about how the Duggars managed this situation, but in truth, only one question matters: Did they do everything they could to protect their daughters?

The answer at the moment seems to be a profound and damning: No.

TLC, the network that airs 19 Kids and Counting in the US has pulled the show from their schedule. But TLC in Australia is still airing the program. Mamamia has approached them for comment but they have not replied.

 

If you’ve been blissfully unaware of the Duggars until now, here’s what you need to know:

The Duggars are a fundamentalist Christian family from the US. They became famous through a reality show called ‘19 Kids and Counting‘ because they have, well, 19 kids and counting.

The Duggars look like the picture of purity at Christmas time (post continues after the video)

They are Independent Baptists. They do not wear shorts, singlets, or anything above the knee. No beaches. No swimming in public. No short hair. No beards. The children are homeschooled, and the older ones help out the younger ones using a buddy system (the buddies are allocated at birth).

According to mother Michelle, the Duggars feel that exposure of the thighs amounts to “nakedness and shame,” and runs the risk of “defrauding” others by encouraging lustful thoughts.

Jim-Bob and Michelle Duggar don’t believe in contraception, so Michelle has been having a child every 18 months since they married when she was 17 years old.

Now, there are some very complicated rules when it comes to finding a husband the Duggar way, and they all revolve around a process called courting. Duggar dad Jim-Bob explained it in a recent interview.

Apparently, a good girl never dates a guy. She allows herself to be ‘courted’ by him. Basically, a boy calls a girl’s dad (never her mum, only a man can decide) and asks if he can court her. If her dad says yes, that boy then comes over to the girl’s home, and sits in the living room with her and her parents while the two of them talk and pray. Said boy and girl then sit awkwardly in the living room a certain number of times deemed appropriate before getting married.

All four of the eldest Duggar girls, Jana, Jill, Jessa and Jinger, wrote a book called Growing up Duggar: It’s All About Relationships, which reveals just how conservative their views on men really are. And while two of the authors have gone on to marry and have children, it’s not clear whether their relationship advice is all that it’s cracked up to be.

Jessa Duggar, the fifth child, 22, was married on 1 November last year to Ben Seewald. They held hands for the first time when they were engaged. They had a self-imposed ban on contact until their nuptials, and were only allowed to side-hug.

After the ceremony there were reports that Jessa had sex with Ben after the church ceremony.

But Jessa says no – they didn’t even kiss at the ceremony. They decided it was even too special for the wedding day. So when the pastor said “You may now kiss the bride”… Jessa’s parents had a quick peck instead. But ten days later, the kiss finally happened and Jessa was able to capture it in a selfie and put in on Instagram…

It’s great living life with your best friend! @ben_seewald

A photo posted by Jessa Seewald (@jessaseewald) on Nov 5, 2014 at 1:58pm PST

But this hasn’t been the Duggars’ only kissing scandal.

Amy Duggar, who is technically Jim Bob’s niece, posted an image to her instagram of her and boyfriend Dillon King kissing (and they’re not married). The photo was later deleted.

The Duggars have been no stranger to controversy. After the death of their 20th child in Michelle’s second trimester, the couple held a memorial service – and the order of service included some images of their dead child. While consistent with their tendency to live their life out in the open, the images were distressing to some.

With the eldest Duggar son Josh confessing to sexually abusing young girls as a teenager, and reports that Michelle and Jim-Bob were involved in the cover-up, it seems as though the Duggar household may have been showing a very different face to the world.

Josh spoke to People magazine about the abuse, saying that “twelve years ago, as a young teenager, I acted inexcusably for which I am extremely sorry and deeply regret. I hurt others, including my family and close friends.

“I confessed this to my parents who took several steps to help me address the situation. We spoke with the authorities where I confessed my wrongdoing, and my parents arranged for me and those affected by my actions to receive counselling. I understood that if I continued down this wrong road that I would end up ruining my life.”

So you want to see ALL the Duggars? Here is the wholesome face that the Duggars show to the world…

For more on the Duggars:

“How I was sucked in to enjoying a show about a homophobic, bigoted cult”

The 6 most disturbing fan responses to Josh Duggar’s sexual assault confession.

This is the true face of the Duggar Family. And it is ugly.

The Duggar family just got bigger.

There’s going to be yet another Duggar. Seriously.

Relationship advice from the Duggar women who have ‘never been kissed’.

“There aren’t enough kids in the world,” says mum of 19.

Jess Duggar saved her first kiss for her wedding. And then she Instagrammed it.

 

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Rachel 9 years ago

I'm not a huge devotee of public broadcasting in situations that have involved innocent children being hurt. To be frank - we don't know the full story. But.... This family have spent the last 10+ years making millions on their wholesome family values - how righteous they are, how perfect their children all are, how the kids never even kiss let alone have sex before marriage. Their brand is wholesomeness. The kids we all want to have. The perfect family we all want that all hang together and make all the right decisions and are fully devoted together to whatever they believe in. So the platform they have built up their millions on has now been discovered to be false. And they just kept on pretending. A 14 year old boy caught molesting his sisters should have had some serious consequences. I'm not talking jail time, but a plan that involved the law in some way. These laws are there for a reason. If every parent in the world did "self punishment" in these situations, teenage years without a copper at some stage giving you a freaking scare, then our society would be much worse than it is. Bad parenting Duggars - I genuinely hope your show is cancelled forever, you don't deserve it.


Sarah 9 years ago

Just wondering, where did you get the information that four out of the five were his sisters? I hadn't heart that and was wondering if you could provide a source. All the other reports say five girls, which had included some of his family.

Don't get me wrong - what he did was reprehensible and I didn't know about the Duggars until this scandal but I think it's important to remember he was 14/15 at the time and that if he was tried/convicted, laws regarding juveniles would probably mean that at 18 he would be released and his record expunged.

It was a well written article, I don't think the girls are being considered enough either. Some of them may not have wanted this out. The girls shouldn't have to hide what happened but it's pretty disgusting that the media put it out knowing the trauma it would bring the girls.

Nicko 9 years ago

Hi

If you look up the police report it's publically available and all the information is in there excpet the names. Best place to start would be freejinger, its all over the forums there

Hope that helps

nurseJAZZ 9 years ago

Reread the articles it has been stated many times that josh molested 4 of his sisters and I other family member probably a cousin. Regardless, is what he did any less heinous if he did it to his sisters or strangers. He is probably lucky he kept it in the family because if he did it outside he probably wouldn't be here to tell his story. Anyone who condone or minimize what he did is beyond ignorant

sandra page 9 years ago

Stop making excuses for this grub...he was 14, at 14 you know right from wrong. I don't care if he would be released at 18 and his record expunged, he and his parents are abhorrent "human beings". As for the girls, what!!!! you don't think that being molested by your brother and your parents making excuses for him could be less worse than the media putting it out there. Perhaps they are pleased it's out there, I know I would be, why should the brother be protected. Those parents should be in jail, they shouldn't even call themselves parents, they are an abomination on the world. Paedophilia and on your sisters is about as low as you can get.