Earlier this year, 28-year-old Jono Pitman strongly divided public opinion on Married at First Sight.
While some heralded him as a “likeable larrikin” whose outbursts toward his “crazy” experimental partner Clare were heavily edited, others were disturbed by his “arrogant, immature” behaviour, which, according to some viewers, bordered on emotional abuse.
By the end of the series, Jono was back kicking a footy and reiterating that Clare “wasn’t what I ordered.” Clare, on the other hand, found true love with her new adopted puppy, Ruby.
Now Jono has posted a controversial, albeit confusing, image to Instagram, which appears to take issue with how people perceived him on the show. But we can't be sure. It makes hardly any sense. What we do know, is he has fundamentally misunderstood what feminism means.
The photo, which has since been removed, shows Jono holding a sign that reads: 'I need feminism to remind me that if I find a woman sexually attractive I am sexually objectifying her but if I don't find her attractive I am a shallow man that only cares about looks.'
It sounds like he feels he's not allowed to find a woman attractive and he's not allowed to find a woman unattractive. I'm sorry, Jono, that feminism has failed you.
Jono clearly has a fundamental misunderstanding of what feminism means, and what people take issue with when it comes to people like him. There is nothing wrong with finding a woman attractive. There is nothing wrong with finding a woman unattractive. There is, however, something wrong with describing a woman you have not yet spoken to as "not what I ordered," as though they are a meal at a restaurant rather than an actual human being.
Feminism, as has been stated time and time again, refers to the political, social and economic equality of the sexes. So to make a joke about not 'needing' it because you're just ~ not quite sure ~ how to treat women, is ridiculous.
Jono is the guy who explained that he really would have preferred a petite brunette to a curvy blonde (without actually getting to know the curvy blonde in front of him).
He's the guy who told a 32-year-old woman that kids or not, you should find time to workout every day and there is never an excuse to put on weight.
He's the guy who lost his temper on a canoe, at an Ikea lounge, and in a restaurant (despite the presence of lots of cheese) all in the space of a week.
The public didn't take issue with him because he didn't find Clare attractive enough. We took issue with him because he was being a jerk.
Sorry Jono, feminism isn't your problem. It hasn't got you stuck between a rock and a hard place.
All feminism wants you to do is treat women like people too. And if that's too hard, it's you, and not an ideology based on the principles of justice, you need to take a look at.
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Seriously, I think i must've watched a different show because Claire was a headcase & a button pusher. Yeah he lost it on the canoe... I wonder if it could've had anything to do with her teasing him the entire time for his fears & laughing at him when he shared something personal with her & was on the verge of having a panic attack... She did it time and again & multiple times completely blew what he was saying out of proportion.
I work out most days & look after myself and happen to agree with him - that I would want to be with someone that has similar ideals and values which include leading a healthy lifestyle... That doesn't make you a jerk, having physical preferences in a partner also doesn't make you a jerk.
I'm not saying he's a saint but he has really copped a raw deal from this show IMO
I think they were both unhinged.
He was aggressive with I would guess violent tendancies and she seemed to like playing the victim and provoked him when she knew he had a short fuse.