We need more women like Jemima Kirke to talk openly about abortion.

Her alter-ego Jessa booked herself in for an abortion in season one of Girls before her very late period arrived, but actress and artist Jemima Kirke actually went through with one.

Girls actress Jemima Kirke, 29, is now a proud mum, but the actress has revealed that in 2007 she ended a pregnancy.

At the time, Kirke was a college student in Rhode Island, and now, eight years later, is using her voice to help banish the stigma associated with abortion.

Kirke is one of very few celebrities to talk openly about abortion and her personal experiences with it, underlining the embarrassment and shame many women feel and the tendency to tiptoe around the issue – or avoid it completely.

Speaking candidly about her decision, Kirke listed the reasons the procedure was necessary for her in a PSA for the US Center for Reproductive Rights campaign called Draw the Line.

“I wasn’t sure that I wanted to be attached to this person [the father] for the rest of my life,” she says. “My life just was not conducive to raising a healthy, happy child. And I just didn’t feel it was fair.”

Highlighting the stigma and embarrassment many women face, the mother of three (Kirke has two children with her husband Michael Mosberg, as well as a step-daughter) says she was unable to discuss the pregnancy with her family and had to pay for the abortion from her own meagre savings.

She couldn’t even afford the anaesthesia so decided to go without.

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“The anesthesia was only, it wasn’t that much more, but when you’re scrounging for however many hundreds of dollars, it is a lot. I just didn’t have it.”

According to the Guttmacher Institute, three out of 10 women in the US will have had an abortion by the age of 45, and most of these happen when women are in their 20s. Without access to health insurance, or having an insurance policy that doesn’t cover abortion, many of them have to pay for the procedure out of pocket, which can be prohibitively expensive.

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Kirke wants things to change before her two daughters come to the age at which abortion may become an issue.

“I’m already anticipating their issues with self-esteem, their issues with their body, the whole luggage that comes with being a woman,” she says. “I would love if when they’re older and they’re in their teens or in their 20s, that the political issues surrounding their body were not there anymore. That they have one less thing to battle around their bodies.”

Other celebrities to share their stories for the Draw the Line campaign include Padma Lakshmi and Mark Ruffalo.