“She was begging me to stay and not go but I just wanted to come up and do a job for the boys.”
That’s how Brisbane Broncos forward James Roberts described the moment he decided to leave his labouring partner at home to go to work.
His partner Anna Jovanovic’s waters had broken, she was in the early stages of labour, and she had no idea what lay ahead. First babies are like that. All the books and all the classes in all the world can’t prepare you for that moment when your body starts to do things you don’t understand and all you know for sure is that there’s no turning back. And that, in all likelihood, things are going to get a whole lot worse before they get better.
These are moments of true fear and confusion. And that’s the time that James Roberts decided to bolt.
Ah, footballers. Bless them. No matter how hard their hapless bosses try to make them appear like reconstructed, sensitive men who understand that women are flesh and blood too, they just keep putting their giant size 12 boots in it. Sometimes with their bosses’ help.
You see, the reason we know Roberts made the decision to leave his partner at her most vulnerable is because the Broncos issued a press release to tell us about it.
“Roberts was going to miss the birth after a making a selfless decision to put the team first and play against the Rabbitohs last Friday, after partner Anna went into labour only hours before kick-off,” it read. That same press release is the source of Roberts’ “begged me not to go” quote, which obviously seemed like a good idea to include at the time.
That ‘selfless decision’ has inflamed Planet Media this morning. Morning shows and opinion pieces have been lining up to point out that it was hardly Roberts who took one for the team by leaving home to play the Rabbitohs on Friday night, but Anna, the woman who was left facing childbirth without him.
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In many cultures, birth is women's business and men aren't welcome. I don't see this as a big deal!
Another story about a footballer who thinks the 'game' he plays is actually important. More fool the women who marry them.
You mean another story about mean men and weak fragile helpless women.
Yeah, having your ability to earn a living being reliant on 'having 25 tattooed giants bearing down on you' every week, knowing the physical damage your body sustains means your career will be over before your 40, and being called a coward by someone who's income will never be reliant on their ability to face 25 tattooed giants week in and week out would be a complete walk in the park. That mean man made a decision to do the job he committed to doing and is paid to do. She wasn't left sitting in the car with the window cracked while he played a casual game of amateur park footy, she was in a hospital being cared for by experienced professionals who were trained and qualified to assist with the birth while he did his job that put food on their table. I get that this is a feminist parenting website, but the whole "The preferences of feminist mothers is the only priority, anything else or anything that does not assign feminist mothers the highest priority is an outrage" is getting old. Earning a living and doing your best to meet your prior commitments is not outrageous, they are attributes to admire. Expecting the world to assign the highest priority to always flawlessly meeting your 'needs' that are often more correctly preferences, is unsustainable, unrealistic and frankly narcissistic.