So a funny thing happened last night…and I don’t mean ‘ha ha’ funny.
A woman on Instagram – a stranger – accidentally sent a message, about me but intended for her friend, to me directly instead.
This woman (let’s call her Rebecca) was commenting on my appearance. Rebecca felt passionate about the fact that, in her eyes, I have had ‘way too much cheek filler’ and she had ‘felt that way about my face’ for a long time.
After reading it I responded “This message was meant to be for your friend, not me, wasn’t it?”
And then I sat and thought about how the situation made me feel. Because, oddly, it made me a feel a few different ways all at the same time.
First up, I felt the need to defend the fact that I have never had cheek fillers. Not because I’m anti ‘having work done’ – I’ve spoken openly about what I do to my face on more than one occasion and the doctor who does it for me has posted about it, too.
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I don’t think it is nice to comment online about individuals but it is ok to comment on the changing world and the maddess that is what women and doing to their faces because it effects us all. When what a few women do becomes a new normal then their is pressure to conform. Is Botox and filler the new Brazilian?
Its perfectly fine to comment on beauty trends and their overall effect but can we leave individual out if it.
I think Rebecca is great. We have all made comments about how others look but it doesn’t mean we are rejecting the feminist idea of letting people do and be what they want without others having a say. You’ve probably commented to others how someone looks and aren’t different. That’s normal. To own your mistake is not common enough and to do it after imagining the situation away is commendable.