She’s an infuriating conservative commentator who’s telling us to keep our man happy. But hey, she’s half right, says Jo Abi.
Whose job is it to make us happy? Lots of women feel its their partner’s job to ensure they are happy and fulfilled. But I’m calling bullsh*t.
Your happiness is your own responsibility and nobody else’s.
A controversial American commentator has called for modern women to stop being unappreciative of their partners and to concentrate less on themselves and more on making their husbands happy.
Susan Patton is an author known for her out-dated beliefs about relationships. She says women need to become "the good wife" and "keep your husband happy".
Patton says she sees today's woman acting like an "entitled princess", prioritising careers ahead of families. She says they should instead concentrate on making sure their men feel appreciated and respected, and treat them with gratitude and kindness. She told Fox & Friends:
If you are in your mid-30s or older the idea that you’re going to find yourself another husband is almost impossible. And if you don’t believe me ask your maiden aunt, she will tell you when she’s done feeding the cats.
I hate myself for saying this but she's half right.
It's not up to women to treat men with gratitude and kindness, but up to both halves of a partnership to treat the other that way.
The reality of long-term relationships is that we do get caught up in our own lives and goals and sometimes we forget to support each other and love each other through the process. So when our partner does make an effort to do this for us, great, but when they don't, instead of feeling sad and unappreciated, find happiness within yourself.
A successful relationship is one in which two happy people choose to be together.
