How do you know when it is time to call it quits in your relationship?
People sometimes find it easier to stay in a relationship rather than face the distress of heartbreak and pursuing an uncertain future. But according to psychotherapist Esther Perel, there is one sign that your relationship is too toxic for it to continue: contempt.
Talking on the The Tim Ferris Show podcast, Perel insists that if you have the feeling of contempt in your relationship, you need to end it.
Perel interprets contempt as “the belittling, the infantilising, the demeaning, the degrading, all of these categories of a relationship which ultimately amount to abusiveness. To me, that is the moment where a relationship really is done. Because what it means, is that in order to protect one self, one needs to leave.”
The relationship expert says contempt “really involves a profound sense of dehumanisation” and a “sense of self-loathing” that is extremely hard to ever come back from for any couple.
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Except that it’s contempt that leads to infidelity in the first place.
You wouldn’t cheat on someone if you felt any empathy, respect or value for them.
Bit reluctant to take relationship/marriage advice from a teenager who got the job because her parents are high profile media personalities.....
No need to be nasty. She's quoting an expert.
I actually don't feel that is relevant.
I'm 37, a parent and partnered, and I felt this was an accurate article when I read it. Only after what you wrote did I check the author.
Tim Ferris (source) is someone I respect and admire and he'd have quality guests on with quality advice.
Also, whether your assumption is correct or not, people will say that about any celebrity's offspring whether they are well-qualified and truly earned a role or not.
They're up against cynics even if they give it all they've got, are talented and earn it fair and square.
There'll always be nay-sayers saying it's undeserved and only be because of who their parents are.
What should she do instead, just live off her parents handouts and party, shop and travel?
I hope she ignores what you wrote and lets it roll off her back.