On the plane trip home, after we’ve been travelling, I always ask my husband, ‘What was your favourite bit?’
He always says, “The sex.”
I say, “We could’ve had sex at home.”
“I know,” he says. “I’m a simple person, really.”
It was his birthday. I considered buying him a power tool, or maybe a gift voucher from Bunnings so he could choose his own. Bunnings makes him immeasurably happy. He hums in the aisles. He denies this. He says the Bunnings experience is satisfying, but not rapturous. He says I have a misbegotten idea that he likes home renovation.
This puts me in mind of a very satisfying conversation he reported having at Christmas drinks at his work. He said that several of his male colleagues were discussing their holiday plans. Most were allocating time during their break to undertake necessary home maintenance. All agreed that their wives regarded this as an imposition. An act of selfishness. A commandeering of the family summer holiday as ‘me time’.
Apparently, wives regarded their husbands’ painting and hammering as willful and self-centred, and to have the audacity to ask the womenfolk ‘to hold something, like a ladder or a tape measure’ was tantamount to wrecking things for everybody.
I can see the truth in this. I am that wife. So, to avoid any unpleasant stirring up of hostilities, I decide to steer clear of the power-tool option and go straight for the default sex.
I book a hotel room.