Rania Farrah* was just like any other ordinary Australian teenage girl.
Like most kids her age, her biggest concerns were trying to get away with not doing homework, and deciding where to go out with her friends on the weekend.
But when she was only 13-years-old, Rania’s life changed.
Rania’s family told her she was going on a trip to Egypt. But instead, after leaving Australia, she was held captive by her own father in Syria. She was horrifically beaten and emotionally abused.
And she was told she had to marry her second cousin, a man in his 30s.
But the scary thing about Rania’s story is that it’s not the only case of something like this happening. She is not the only underage Australian girl being forced to marry a man many years her senior.
This evening’s episode of Channel 9’s 60 Minutes explored this practice, and helped give Rania a voice to share her traumatising story.
Rania’s mother Margaret met Rania’s father in Australia, but the couple moved to Saudi Arabia soon after their marriage. According to Rania, it was a violent relationship, and she remembers that her dad “used to beat my mum. He never beat us… [but] he beat my mum all the time.”
When Rania was eight-years-old, Margaret and her five young children fled to Australia – leaving their father behind. The family’s life changed for the better. They lived with Margaret’s “true blue Aussie” family, as Rania described them in the interview, and for many years they only heard from her father occasionally by telephone.
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I guess this is why we should make the most basic human rights prevail over any cultural matters. I am a woman, Hispanic and lucky as hell to have been able to live this life of mine. I live in one of the most multicultural places in the world: Canada. And I still believe that children's rights are the most important rights to look after. This girl lost ... was ROBBED of her chance at an amazing adolescence in the wonderful country of Australia, but instead, because of "crazy" cultural beliefs and practices, she was taken into a reality that completely violated all of her fundamental rights as a child and a human being.
For a second, think about how you would feel if at 13 you were taken away from your life. Imagine having to forget about school, friends, music, books, movies, everything that made you YOU! And then trapped in a foreign country, put in an unjust situation? I do not wish this to anyone... ever.
I guess this is where we have to question if those who surround us, whether family or friends have our best interest in mind or not. Sometimes we (daughters and sons) have to question our parents, and most times, we are here to teach them life lessons. Because if it wasn't for the open minded and revolutionary young people that confront their parents old and conservative views, our civilization would have never "evolved" thus come this far.
I respect all cultures and religions, but the moment they disrespect women and children, the world's children! Because children belong to all of us, we all have the capacity to help and protect an endangered child, and what's most, it is our responsibility to do so. And this coming from a woman who doesn't want children of her own.
I am from an Arab community. Born here to migrant parents who arrived in Australia 40 years ago. Unlike other members of our community, my parents assimilated. My god were they cool to their 3 daughters. Encouraged us to educate, work and succeed. They also encouraged a love based marriage in which we picked. We erred in our partners but it was our choice either way.
However this story is all too true. Many of my relatives and friends in the community were whisked overseas to marry a person according to their parents wishes. Many were whisked away at a young age in order to be 'raised' by their partners. Many parents believed that the older the girl the more stubborn she became.
It's a shame on our community and I am glad these issues are coming to light. The attitudes needs to change. Mark my words, the people in my community who are 2nd and 3rd generation Arab Australians still instill these values. Only it becomes worse as they no the ways of the western world and the eastern world.