So what is the greatest moral challenge of our time? It’s a heavy question for a Wednesday, I know. But if you had to name it, pin it down to one thing, what would you say? Climate change? The AIDS epidemic in Africa? The sky-high illiteracy rates of women and children in developing nations? The obscene amount of waste in developed countries compared to the extreme poverty of the developing world?
All of them? None of them?
I know my answer. It’s a problem that – like cancer – shows no discrimination. It’s a problem that’s happening right now, possibly in the house across the road from you. It happens behind closed doors in churches and temples and school boarding houses. It’s in our aboriginal communities and country towns and in million dollar homes at Broadbeach. It’s whispered about in Bangladeshi slums and council flats in London and high-rises in New York. It’s happening around the world. Anywhere, in fact, where there are children.
I’m talking about child sexual assault.
In Australia, the statistics are hard to comprehend. One in five children are sexually assaulted. And that abuse has a ripple affect that society is scrambling to deal with.
The fact is children who are sexually assaulted frequently start failing at school, begin binge drinking, taking drugs and become sexually promiscuous as a result of the abuse. They also often face a lifelong battle with depression and self-loathing when they try – and fail – to process the feelings of what has happened to them. There is the abject shame and filth they feel about themselves. The blame they carry that somehow they are at fault, that they encouraged or caused the assault. The hollowness of feeling forever changed and of having an innocence about the world stripped away.
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I love Hetty and all the work she has done for Bravehearts and the community. sexual abuse of children is the most disgusting, horror and the repercussions are ongoing. The pain. But to make it worse is when a family denies the abuse is going on wiithin their family. When a mother chooses her husband or partner over her child. When a grandmother chooses her husband over her grandchild. Society has thankfully become far more open about this abuse, I feel sick thinking about how many cases were never heard throughoutthe ages, how many children are still suffering abuse. The abusers who hide. There is nothing worse for me personally that disguts me to the core and what this does to a child and as they become adults, if they survive their robbed childhoods. This is something I feel so strongly about for personal reasons, where when I hear of an abuser being murdered, I can't help but smile. Absolute scum.
Thanks Bec, for sharing this information. Emily Jade also posted on white balloon day yesterday and Juliette Wright from Givit, speaks very highly about the work Hetty and her team do. With 3 big hearted and savvy women like the three of you giving an endorsement, definitely a charity worthy of support. Donation made at Bravehearts site - very quick and easy to do.
In relation to the comments below, those statistics have kept constant for many years. Remember that there is huge silence around this issue along with feelings of shame. Be careful in assuming that someone who doesn't share their abuse hasn't been abused, underreporting of abuse is a significant issue especially in young men. The statistics of people in our mental health services who have experienced abuse is even high then the 1 in 5 if I recall correctly.