When I was married to my now ex-husband, every couple of months he would pull out a cloth Crown Royal Whisky bag he kept in his nightstand full of pocket change, lay the coins out in neat stacks, and roll them to take to the bank and be cashed.
The act seemed so cutely childish, like he was a 10-year-old boy rolling up coins from his piggy bank to try to buy a candy bar or comic book.
Since before we’d even gotten married, our money had been joint except for the $100 cash “fun money” we each took out every month.
This change, he’d told me, was from money back he’d received off his cash money, or I’d sometimes find him even rummaging under the couch cushions looking for more.
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It wasn’t until much later that I realised he was lying to me about money: about how much he had, where he was getting it, and what he was doing with it. He was obsessively collecting and rolling change because he needed extra money to buy the drugs he was secretly using.
He was also doing other things without my knowledge to get side-money. He collected metal and took it to the scrapyard to get pennies on the dollar. He sold things on eBay, packaging and mailing them off from his work so I wouldn’t see.
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G,and there were a few financial ones on thereood follow up to the article about what we hide from our partners
I'm unsure that the author has identified the key issue here - while the financial cheating is bad, surely the root problem is her ex-husband's drug use, which is why he's doing all these things to get money?