This post deals with family violence and might be triggering for some readers.
“I’m trying to work out what to do before I end up in a body bag but that seems unavoidable right now.”
This was one of the first replies this month to my research questionnaire on domestic violence. The participant is a young lawyer in regional Australia who has escaped a coercively controlling relationship, during which she received several murder threats and survived two murder attempts.
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In the next six months, as coronavirus lockdown regulations bite, she is more terrified of her ex than of COVID-19. This is because she is required to hand over their child weekly to him in order to comply with Family Court orders.
There is no longitudinal research on what happens when families are required by government regulation to stay at home for six months, because it has not happened in living memory.
Victims and their children who live with the perpetrator will be at constant risk.
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Scomo keeps promising more counselling funding but not more jails to house violent men. What is he doing about the violent men???
We need to be locking these men up every time, not after multiple assaults. Zero tolerance of male violence with mandatory sentencing must be funded by the government immediately.
The only form of real protection from violence for these women is self-defence. Family violence agencies should fund a website or tv show demonstrating self-defence to women. Herbal drugging of violent partners would allow women time to flee if in imminent danger. A more forgiving legal system would be needed as these men might get hurt. But women and children die weekly.
This shouldn't be an outlandish concept. Men getting hurt by women is no more unpalatable than women being killed by men. No measure should be seen as too radical to prevent continued murder.
We know about the psychology of these male perpetrators who have a personality type that is difficult to treat and means they won't stop. If the government-funded legal system won't solve this, women have no choice but to do what it takes to keep themselves and their children safe.
We have a court system that prefers to allocate our limited jail cells to men who are a violent threat to men, over men who are a violent threat to women and children. A zero tolerance of male violence altogether, with mandatory sentencing, must be implemented. Instead of spending more millions funding FV counselling hotlines, build more jails until men get the message that violence is unacceptable and will be punished.