Amelia was almost 2 years old when she was first brought into my care with a scalded esophagus. She also had very low muscle tone and was unable to walk.
As is often the case when you’re a foster carer, the information you are fed is on a ‘need to know basis’ but I did know this.
Amelia’s mother was a long term drug user and addict. Her caseworker couldn’t be sure, but it was more than likely that Amelia had been born with a substance addiction yet they had no definite confirmation of this.
Her mother was still seeing Amelia’s father occasionally. Apparently “occasionally enough” to get her pregnant again.
Amelia would soon have a sibling and there was a very good chance I would be caring for her yet-to-born brother or sister as well.
I was advised that this baby would be born with a drug addiction and she asked if I would be willing to take them on. I assured her that I would be. I didn’t ask what the drug of choice was, it didn’t really matter to me. I did however ask, how Amelia, her huge beautiful green eyes watching me wearily from the corner of the room, had come to have her throat burnt.
The caseworker flipped through her notes and visibly swallowed. “It says here that her mother overheated her bottle in the microwave and fed her boiling hot milk. She was admitted to the hospital with significant burns to her throat. This was her third admission to the hospital over a 3 month period for unrelated matters. This incident however, the scalding, was when the authorities removed her from her mother’s care.” – *Beth
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I know a family who have been foster parents for many years, at the moment they have two children who started kindergarten this year and a baby who is 12 months old. The baby was born to a drug dependant mother who was in gaol at the time. After the baby was well enough after undergoing treatment due to withdrawal symptoms etc she went to live with this family. They have raised this little girl from newborn and will soon have to let her go live with her mother, the mother has had another children, that were also removed from her care. The other two children came to live with the family as babies (not newborns), the younger of the two a boy has Special Needs and his biological mother had 18 children before him, who were all taking into care. This family have decided to stop fostering as the heartbreak of having to give up the baby, who is thriving to go onto a very uncertain future is too much.
I think it about time the Government stepped in & help save these beautiful children, to help them have the life each child deserves - a happy & safe one. Now all they need to do is make fostering/adoption easier so these babies can go into a safe & loving family that they deserve. Hopefully the natural birth mother will realise what a blessing they have, clean themselves up enough to get there precious baby back.