MIA: My tip for all women going into hospital to have a baby...

I can see where you're coming from Mia, but I kind of think this is a nice idea. I don't think Dita's intention was to "shoehorn new mothers into hot lacy lingerie", but rather give them a bit of luxury in a time they might be feeling a bit blah. That's just my opinion though...pretty bras are my weakness!

Child birth was a horrific experience for me all thanks to the lovely staff at the hospital. The anaethetist was nasty to me, I made a sarcastic joke about the c-section too long so she got angry at me and threatened to leave me on the operating table without her. I was too scared to speak up cos I didn't want her to leave me - she made it very clear she was the only one in the hospital. I didn't get to hold my baby for almost an hour after. I regained all feeling in 20 minutes following stitching. The staff left me screaming the hospital down in absolute agony, I have never felt so much pain in my entire life. It lasted for 4 hours, because they didn't believe me. They told me I was hallucinating. Until she finally came back after poking me with a needle and realised I wasn't lying - I COULD actually feel it. The midwives interfered with breast feeding, then when my son couldn't latch on because my breasts had gotten so big (I was a size 8 clothing and a 10I cup (that is i) I requested to bottle feed as he had already had colostrum. They told me it was better for my son to go hungry, that when he was starving he would suck harder. I begged them. My family ended up sneaking bottles in because he was so hungry and nobody would help me. I was doped up on so many opiate pain killers I could barely move, neither could my son. He was doped up to the eyeballs. They left me holding him and I nearly dropped him because I was passing out... when I finally got hold of the midwive because I stumbled down the hallway I was told 'nonsense, a mother wouldn't drop her own child it's called instinct'. I was left with my abusive ex fiancee to help with my personal care. my mum came and found me in the bathroom with my ex, because the nurses made him help me and told me 'he's your childs father so you better accept his help we're too busy'. I was so embarrased... they left me with a man to change my pad. Nobody had even told me that you bleed after child birth :( They were aware that only a month prior he had threatened to rip my child out of my womb with a coat hanger, to throw me off our balcony, had abused me for almost 4 years and that after I found his porn collection i realised my son would never be safe. Nobody cared. I was treated terribly because I was a single mother, not only that I was a stupid single mother because I had fallen pregnant to an abusive partner. Shame on me. Underwear is the least of our concern Mamamia. Perhaps for some it's the most important part but does anyone ever highlight the struggles that women go through and how poorly they are treated for having a child?