Warning: photos in this story may be distressing for some readers.
British mum Charlotte Szakacs was 20 weeks into her pregnancy when she and her husband Attila received devastating news. Their unborn daughter had a hypoplastic aorta, a condition that affects blood flow, and she also had a small, underdeveloped brain. There were endless hospital appointments.
“We was also asked to terminate on countless occasions but we knew she was already worth every bit of life!” Szakacs wrote on a Facebook page devoted to her daughter.
Baby Evlyn was born on December 13 last year. Doctors discovered she also had problems with her lungs that made it hard for her to breathe. She spent four weeks in the hospital, on a ventilator, before her parents decided to “let her go peacefully” in a hospice.
Charlotte Szakacs and baby Evlyn in hospital. Image: Facebook.
"We got to hold her and cuddle her properly for the first time for an hour before they turned off the ventilator," Szakacs reveals in the Mirror.
"She passed away just a couple of minutes after they took out her breathing tube. She was so weak she didn't take a single breath.
"I was holding her in my arms as she went and her dad had his arms around us both."
The couple stayed at the hospice for 12 days with Evlyn in a refrigerated "cuddle cot". They took her out of the cot to hold her, and they were also able to take her for walks.
Mother and daughter on a walk. Photo: Facebook.
"So many people have never heard of parents being able to spend that time with their babies, and other mums reached out to me saying they think it would have helped, so I really want to raise awareness," Szakacs says.
"I know it might not be the best option for everyone, but for us it was so important to be able to have that family time - and just properly cuddle our little girl.
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My wife and I tried for years to have a baby. Years of fertility treatment and multiple pregnancies.. however, each pregnancy would end in miscarriage. It was devastating to me HOWEVER, for my wife it was many many times worse. I honestly think I will never be able to comprehend what losing a baby is like for a female. This may be disgusting to some.... but I honestly think it would have made things a little better if she could have spent just a little while with the fetus. I sincerely mean this. Cuddle Cot is a wonderful thing.
Very sad yet good news for us, after all the horrendous pain and sorrow. My wife's heroin addicted niece had a little boy. The state took him, his grandmother called my wife begging her to come get him... of course we dropped everything and went immediately. She spent weeks out of state seeing attorneys, child protective services, etc... the end result is we now have the most wonderful little fellow ever!!! Somehow, he is the most handsome, brilliant, funny, happy, pleasant, etc. little (actually big.. he is 4.5 and almost 4 feet tall and weighs 55 pounds!!!) fellow I have ever known... and my whole world!!
Sorry if this is way off topic, I guess I just feel so terribly bad for people who lose children, people who want but cannot have children, etc. Please don't give up hope.. our little fellow came out of nowhere one day.. I sincerely wish the same for people in our situation and similar.
P.S. Don't ever let anyone tell you to "get over it"... or it is God's will that you don't have children if you want them... IMO those are total nonsense, cold, and ignorant statements.
I wish there was a cuddle cot at the hospital where we had our little man. So special for this family to have photos and memories outside of the hospital walls. They can return to those places and being able to see daylight on their precious girl's face is a gift.