Like many new parents, for Poppy Jones and Luke Gower the birth of their baby son Vincent was overwhelming.
Ms Jones went into premature labour and gave birth to Vincent at 36 weeks in November last year.
He was fit and healthy and a wonder for his parents and extended family.
Vincent Jones died last November. Via Facebook.
The couple from Kent in the UK posted doting images of their beloved boy on social media, surrounded by hearts and filled with warm congratulations from friends.
At two days old the family were back home and when Vincent wouldn't settle and his exhausted mother clearly needed some rest Luke offered to soothe his son to sleep so Poppy Jones could get a much needed break.
He walked with the newborn patting his back and gave him a feed at 10pm, he then lay in bed with the two-day-old cradled on his chest while he patted him to sleep.
“I gave him one feed when Poppy went to bed and then I was walking around with him patting his back,” Mr Gower said.
“I was sitting with him trying to get him to go to sleep. I sat in bed with him.”
But when he woke at 7am his newborn son was no longer cradled in his arms, but tragically lying lifeless and facedown beside him in the bed.
The heartbroken parents of Vincent have given evidence at an inquest into his death.
Poppy Jones and Luke Gower. Via Facebook.
At the inquest Pathologist Kio Palm said baby Vincent had suffered 'a sudden unexpected death in infancy in an unsafe sleeping environment', adding that a post mortem examination had not revealed any underlying health problems or abnormalities reports Kent OnLine.
She said that co-sleeping, the act of sleeping in close proximity with a baby can have a number of fatal consequences.
Assistant coroner Christine Freedman said: “He was a healthy, normally grown baby with no abnormalities in his development.”
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This is NOT a "co-sleeping" death. This is an ACCIDENTAL sleeping death. Big difference, and failing to understand the difference only increases the risk for babies.
This father fell asleep accidentally while trying to soothe an unsettled baby, with baby in the very unsafe position of laying on his chest. The baby appears not to have been breastfed either which further increases SIDS risk. We don't know if the father was affected by drugs, medication or alcohol, as sadly many are in smothering cases.
Deliberate and planned co-sleeping with this baby would have looked much different. The mother (who is far more in tune to the baby AND if she's breastfeeding will wake and stir in the same light sleep cycles as the baby) sleeps on her side with the baby at the level of her breast, no pillows or blankets around the baby, and her body curved in the protective C pattern around the baby, which prevents her from rolling on it. This sleep position, carefully chosen, maximizes sleep for the mother, soothes the baby.
The difference is PREPARING to sleep safely with your baby, taking all precautions and adopting protective practices VS being too scared to co-sleep (thanks often to articles like these!) but falling asleep with your baby ANYWAY in extremely unsafe positions like the couch, a chair, sitting up on the end of the bed, or, as was the case here, with the baby laying on your chest.
Parents are only human, and when sleep deprived they WILL accidentally fall asleep with the baby. Even the most dedicated ANTI co-sleeper can fall asleep trying to settle a baby in an unsafe position.
In no way was that an attack. The OP has stated clearly proven issues that can either help or hinder co-sleeping and they said it as fact, to clear up the scaremongering that is going on in the article.
It has been very much proven that Breastfeeding mothers are more in tune with their babies and they move and sleep in similar if not mirroring ways. Bottlefeeding mothers aren't lesser mothers but it is true that their synchronicity is not the same as a mother who breast feeds. It's all in the hormones. The father didn't share those hormones either so that is probably a big factor in what happened.
We aren't aware if he was taking any medication or if he'd consumed alcohol or drugs, and those are huge commonly talked about risks of co-sleeping deaths. These are just facts, not accusations or nastiness. Pure fact. When OP comes back and says they were crap parents or drunks or idiots, then I'll gladly support your implication of attack. Until then, I stand by what they said.
All of our children slept beside me. In saying that we used a snuza halo. It was a small device that clipped on to their nappies. It would vibrate against their skin if it didn't sense then breathing. Then it would sound a very loud alarm. The only times it ever went off was when I forgot to turn it off when changing their nappies. Best thing we ever bought.