Radio personality Chrissie Swan recently found herself at the centre of a pretty nasty Facebook unfriending incident – and her response was pure gold.
This morning on Mix 101.1’s breakfast program Chrissie & Jane, Chrissie spoke about how a 40-year friendship recently ended in all-out Facebook war over a simple misunderstanding.
It all started when Chrissie and her sister, both busy, working mums with young children, couldn’t work out a convenient time for a catch up with some old family friends who were visiting Melbourne:
“Anyway so they were visiting Melbourne this week, and they say want to catch up? And I said yes, absolutely! Let’s get a coffee. Because they were here only a few months ago and we had a coffee and it was FABULOUS, we talked about old times and our parents and, you know, all that sort of stuff.”
So far so good. But things escalated pretty quickly once Chrissie realised the catch-up would be impossible to co-ordinate around work and family commitments during the week.
“…because it was all done on Facebook I just messaged this family friend and said look, it’s such a bummer but this week we can’t find a time that all four of us can work…Anyway she emailed me back and said yep that’s fine no worries, and I said we’ll see you next time it’ll be great, such a bummer lalala. THEN. I’m on Facebook doing something else, stuffing around wasting time. And I see this-
‘You know, we all grow up and we all move on, and some get famous and some don’t.
‘From a personal point of view I think it’s a shame for those who do become famous. We are still us – it’s your bad luck if you’re missing out on catching up with everyday great company people. I won’t make the mistake or the effort again, and I will love and cherish the friends we do have.’
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Funnily enough I actually unfriended someone over Chrissie Swan about 2 years ago. It was a guy I'd known for about a year, one day his FB feed popped up and it was this nasty rant about Chrissie. I defended her and pointed out that he (and I) don't even know her and it seems pretty lousy to be so vicious about someone on social media. He then said even more nasty things and I ended up unfriending him - I didn't want to have anything to do with him after reading all the nastiness he was quite happy for his 100's of 'friends' to see. For me it wasn't because I'm this massive fan of Chrissie's - she's seems lovely and she's clever and funny but if he'd written that way about anybody, celeb or not I would have unfriended him, it showed a really ugly side of him that I didn't know. To make it even worse is he is a reasonably well know journalist and this was linked to his work profile! Yuk, can't stand how nasty FB is, I deactivated my account over 12 months ago and I've felt so much better for it, I was feeling depressed by the end of my 5 years of being on there. It seems to bring out the worst in people and it really upset me seeing homophobic, racist, ignorant, bigoted or just plain cruel posts. The thing that annoys me now is so many businesses try to force you to use FB to access their websites or join forums, etc, wish there wasn't so much pressure to partake in social media tool I don't want to use.
I have unfriended people and caused hurt, and people have unfriended me and caused hurt... Facebook is a mess, it has taken away our want to catch up and gives us an unhealthy view into someone personal life that we shouldn't have a connection with. Thank goodness for the restricted and unfollow buttons