Would you describe yourself as average or beautiful?
That was the confronting choice given to a group of women in Dove’s latest campaign.
Their powerful new film shows women having to choose between one of two doors: one labelled “average”, and the other, “beautiful”. It’s a moving clip, and by the end it will have you questioning your own choice.
The Dove #choosebeautiful video:
Would I choose average, or beautiful? The question stopped me cold. Because I knew that if I had been given this choice, I would pick average immediately, without hesitation, every time.
And shockingly, so would at least 83 per cent of Australian women.
This disheartening result came from a recent Mamamia and Dove survey of over 11,000 women. In this survey, we asked women how they felt about themselves, their beauty and their confidence.
We found that for the vast majority of women, their overall confidence in their beauty was shockingly low.
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We found that those who chose average were 140 per cent more likely to dress for others compared to those who chose beautiful.
Not only this, but they were 146 per cent more likely to have negative thoughts about their appearance and to feel less confident about their beauty as they aged. They were also three times more likely to have no favourite feature of their body.
These results are upsetting, and true for the majority of Australian women – including me.
I was recently asked what my favourite body part was for an article – and I couldn’t come up with an answer. I sat there blankly, frantically telling myself to make something up so I could just respond.
I answered with “eyelashes”, for lack of a better reply.
But surprisingly, this wasn’t always the case. When I was a teenager, I would confidently tell anyone who asked that my favourite part of my body was my hips. But as time wore on, I saw image after image of beautiful small-hipped women, both on and offline, and these days I am no longer as sure.
So where did all that confidence go? Why do I, and most women around me, no longer feel beautiful?
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I know I am well and truly in that 83 per cent who would call themselves average, but I also know that that is not where I want to be forever.
Instead, I want to be like those 17 per cent of women who chose beautiful. The women in the survey who were more likely to believe that inner confidence makes someone more beautiful than their looks. The women who said they were confident to leave the house without makeup.
Because after all, these results don’t tell us that the lucky 17 per cent are beautiful on the inside and out and that the rest of us are somehow lacking.
No, they absolutely and definitely do not.
They tell us that all of us make a decision every day to choose beautiful, or to choose average. It’s a personal decision, and one that only you can make. But it’s a decision that can make an enormous difference to how you feel about yourself every single day.
What would you choose – average or beautiful?
Here at Mamamia Women’s Network, we #choosebeautiful:
Team MM chooses beautiful.
So knowing all this – knowing the facts, and how you feel – will you choose beautiful?
Top Comments
I'm not sure if everyone read the article correctly. But my interpretation was that they were explaining that the 17% of women who chose beautiful understood that beauty wasn't necessarily a physical thing, that it does come from within. Those that are saying they don't wear make up to feel beautiful, that's great! I don't either. Again my understanding of the article was to get those 83% of women who would walk through the average door to ask themselves why? Why don't they feel beautiful? Physically, I am morbidly obese (BMI), I have acne scarring and pigmentation from pregnancy, I'm extremely hairy...and I'm honest about what I look like. I also believe I am a beautiful person. My husband, 3 beautiful children, family and friends make me feel like that every day.
I'm not sure about this article. It is lumping a lot of unrelated things together.
1) I'm not beautiful and don't want to be beautiful: beautiful people have trouble being inconspicuous, which is my preference.
2) I'm not beautiful and almost always refuse to wear makeup. Sadly mamamia recently had a survey on this and I had to choose which makeup I would feel naked without. "None" was not a choice. I don't feel naked without makeup: I feel like I'm in disguise or a costume when I'm wearing it.
3) I'm not beautiful and trust in my inner confidence to attract and keep the attention I want.
It reminds me of the false premise of the "DUFFY" movie: beautiful people have a designated ugly, fat friend to ensure they get attention. I want a fabulously beautiful "friend" who will put up with the sexual harassment and over-bearing, entitled male boors that exist. (I don't really: that would be really wrong.) Average people enjoy the freedom of going uninterrupted and unobserved about your business, like most men.