I am a 28 year old woman; educated and in a loving, committed relationship. Last week was like any other week, except I had an abortion.
The decision was hard. Harder than any other decision I’ve had to make, and the emotions still linger on. Someone said to me after I’d had the procedure, “It’s okay, the hard part is over, it’s the lead up that is the worst”.
I assume that woman has never had an abortion, because the hard part can’t be pinpointed. Finding out was hard, deciding what to do was hard, having the procedure was hard, and the aftermath continues to be hard.
Donald Trump believes women who have abortions should be punished. Post continues after video…
But a question keeps swirling, and what I just can’t fathom, among all of my own pain and emotional turmoil, is why do men keep involving themselves in this issue? US Presidential candidate Donald Trump made his comments the day after my abortion. Were we living in a Trump system, I would have been punished for the choice I made for my self and my body.
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If you indeed know you and your partner are not ready, you could be selfless instead of selfish and find one of the many forms of birth control to prevent having to terminate another's life. Just my two cents- good luck.
Short of having your tubes tied, or a vasectomy, most forms of contraception CAN and DO fail. Just because someone is not ready now, doesn't mean they don't want children. Even a vasectomy isn't 100% fail-proof. And please don't say "well don't have sex", because that's just ridiculous.
When do the cells become a baby and not a "cluster of cells" or "possibility"? Anyone pregnant who wants a child will call it a baby asap. The terminology should be the same regardless. The men who aren't in favour of abortion are providing a voice for the babies who might not get to be born. They are strongly speaking up for those who can't speak yet even though their view is unpopular. In other situations this would be admired. There are lots of organisations which provide support to mums. They're not alone.