Yesterday, The Daily Telegraph published an article titled ’13 reasons Jesinta and Buddy should postpone their summer wedding’.
In response, Caroline Overington wrote a beautiful open letter to Jesinta.
Caroline writes…
BACK when I was a kid, people used to talk about your wedding day as the best day of your life.
It’s really not.
Weddings are fun, but in my view, the best day of your life comes along quite a bit before the wedding.
I’m talking about that moment when it dawns on you that this relationship is different, and then one of you plucks up the courage to say: ‘Um… I think I love you.’
And then you hold your breath…
And then the other one says… “Well, that’s great… because I love you too!”
And there the two of you stand, one loving the other and being loved right back. That’s the best day of your life.
Then of course what sometimes happens is that he will say: “So… will you marry me?”
You say: “Yes! Of course I will!”
You kiss and you laugh and you get on the phone to excitedly tell all your friends and, this being the new millennium, you also post a loved-up photograph on Instagram, and then along comes a Daily Telegraph columnist with 13 reasons why you shouldn’t go through with it.
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I'm sure the Daily Telegraph article is going to be really helpful to Buddy's mental health! Not!
This is one of the reasons people don't like to tell others when they suffer a mental affliction. Pity he is in the spotlight otherwise they could have chosen whether to keep it to themselves or not. This is why all this openness, this encouragement to tell your employer, your family, your friends etc, is a load of hogwash. Anything bad that a person goes through whether it be depression or some other trauma you can guarantee that if you make it public there will be someone who will make you feel ten times worse. Then there will be the people who mean well but make it worse by doing or saying the wrong thing or giving you bad advice. Then there are the small group of people who will actually be very helpful. But they are few. By the way I'm not saying I'm perfect either, sometimes people have told me of problems and years later I've realised I could have handled it more sensitively. The reality is some people just don't get certain problems but will be sympathetic about other problems that they can relate to.
I recall one time going through a traumatic breakup and a friend saying well he's just not that into you. Um yeah thanks. I kind of figured that out but a little compassion wouldn't go astray. I had other "useful" advice from other friends, so last time I went through heartbreak I just kept it to myself. Because if you tell people your inner secrets you never know if they are going to be helpful or going to make you feel ten times worse.
As for buddy and Jesinta I think the only two people who know whether they should get married or not are Buddy and Jesinta. Keep your heads high and don't heed anything people who don't know you are going to say, they are only doing it to sell papers.
I love the morcombes and to this day remain outraged that the government at the time saw fit to choose Geoffrey Rush as Australian of the year rather than them. To me, their strength of spirit is as Australian as it gets. I wish them much peace, love and continued strength of character and am so sorry for what happened to their son.