“I cleared it with the bride, but now she’s not talking to me.”
One of my girlfriends and I have been close for a very long time. Since high school. We’re both 28 and have known each other for about 15 years. And she recently got married.
While I wasn’t in the bridal party, I was heavily involved in the planning of the wedding. My weekends were dedicated to bridal dress shopping, picking out vases and flowers to go on the reception tables, I even went with her to a butterfly house that specialises in weddings because she wanted them released at the church.
You name it and I probably did it.
She comes from a large family and her bridal party consisted of only immediate family. She had three in total and told me she couldn’t have me because it would upset her other family who she couldn’t include. I completely understood.
The wedding was roughly three-months ago and since then something really strange has happened. My friend has pretty much stopped talking to me and I’m pretty sure I know the reason why.
I think it’s because I wore white to her wedding.
I know that it’s a “thing” not to wear white to a wedding. But I had this cocktail dress that I’ve wanted to wear forever that I never got the chance to. It was designer, I got it on sale and I knew I wouldn’t have another occasion anytime soon coming up where I could wear it. It didn't in any way look bridal.
I know it sounds silly but I even ran it by my friend first. I told her what the dress looked like and explained to her that it was white. She told me that I could wear what I liked and that she wasn’t “one of those brides”; one of those brides that tell her wedding guests what to do. She also said that she wasn’t old fashioned and didn’t believe in that kind of thing.
With her blessing I went ahead and wore the dress.
