Cameron Diaz, possessor of excellent abs and great hair, has revealed she doesn’t believe in monogamy.
I know, Stop. The. World. Let’s all get off.
In the grand scheme of things whatever Cameron Diaz is doing in the bedroom doesn’t greatly affect our lives but it’s always fun when a celebrity goes rogue and doesn’t tout the usual I-woke-up-like-this-and-eat-hamburgers-all-the-time line.
Here’s what she actually said: “I don’t know if anyone is really naturally monogamous. We all have the same instincts as animals. But we live in a society where it’s been ingrained in us to do these things.”
“A lot of people chase after it because they’ve been told, ‘This equals happiness.’ They chase it, they get it, and they find out, ‘Why did I think this was going to make me happy? I’m miserable!'”
To which I say bullocks.
Monogamy with the right person can make you happy. Very, very happy.
I have been with my now husband since I was 18-years-old. For those of you playing along at home that’s a total of 16 years. I don’t like telling many people that, mostly because I can tell their perception of me shifts.
I can tell they’re thinking ‘Oh, but you haven’t lived!’ ‘You haven’t had enough life experience’ ‘You haven’t slept with a bunch of people!’ … but I didn’t need to.
At the risk of sounding twee, I knew he was special the moment I met him. I had also met and dated enough douchebags to know when a really great one came along. And for me, he was it.
You see, the thing about finding someone you want to spend the rest of your life with – marriage or no marriage – is that the years fly by. I can’t believe it’s already been 16 years, it feels like it’s been about five. I know that even on our 25th or 50th wedding anniversary will still feel like I haven’t had enough time with him.
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from personally experiences, monogamy in a long term relationship ( for me, none ever lasted past a year , l was ALWAYS cheated on) is really hard for people who have not emotionally matured or find themselves still in a time of life where partying and constant socialising happens i.e., 25-35.It's all too easy to meet new and interesting and exciting people!
Our expectations of what a relationship is supposed to be like is either formed by own parents , peers, or Hollywood and lets face it, we are so influenced by all of those groups. My parents have been married for 44 years.....and since l was a kid they have clashed, sometimes horribly. My mother sleeps in her own room, my dad is antisocial and when he does bother to talk to people is rude and argumentative. I honestly wonder why they are still together after all of these years. A few of my friends are divorced, some have moved on to new relationships, some are like me and have chosen a defacto relationship because we all know marriage guarantees nothing. I have aunts, uncles , cousins who have divorced or are single ( choose to be) because they cannot find people who can remain monogamous; in just about ever failed relationship that l can name with my family/friends, there was always another person involved.
For almost 10 years, l chose to stay single rather than keep giving myself over to relationships where men put my emotions, my health and my sanity at risk by being cheaters. When l finally met someone who held the same beliefs as myself and the same feelings, then l took the risk and 7 years later l haven't looked back. When l was 35 l decided that l would like to have a relationship and family, but l also knew that if it didn't happen for me that l would survive just fine thank you very much. My partner and l know we will have temptation in our lives, but we are older and wiser and we know the risks of acting upon those temptations. I also know, that l was very happy as a single for 10 years, and l have no doubt that l can survive singledom again if that's the way life goes. For my friends however, the idea horrifies them that anyone would chose to be single! I would rather be single and happy than in a relationship no matter how long term and be miserable ( with or without a cheating partner)