It’s no secret weddings can be fraught with family conflict, a need to please and expenses that defy general logic.
So what happens when two of these combine to form one great vortex of wedding problems?
Reddit user richbiche asked the advice of the internet after writing about how her older sister offered her $10k just to be her Maid of honour instead of their younger sister. Generous? Not so much.
Describing her oldest sister as a “terrible person” who she “isn’t close” to, richbiche goes onto the elaborate on why the offer is laced with cruel intentions.
“My older sister Mary was always daddy’s little girl and she grew up cruel, selfish, and conceited just like him. My little sister and I have never been close with her or our father but we’ve always been there for each other. When my father passed last year he left Mary the bulk of his estate,” she began.
“Mary is flashing about town with the cash while my sister and I have been struggling to help our ailing mother get by. Mary visits our mum once in awhile and spends her time there making the kind of cruel comments our father made and texting. I really don’t like her but she mostly ignored me until now.
"My younger sister Anne has always been the great beauty of the three of us and my older sister has always reserved the best of her vitriol for Anne. I know showing up Anne is probably the only reason Mary wants to be my maid of honour."
The bride also went onto explain the the $10,000 would be "potentially life-changing" for her and her soon-to-be husband, and thus she has been left with quite the quandary.
Fellow Reddit users were quick to jump in and offer the soon-to-be bride advice, with many suggesting she run the other way and ignore the money.
"Truly, there is no guarantee that Mary will actually give you the $10,000. She may just be toying with you to see if she can ruin your relationship with Anne," one user wrote.
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Another shared their own experience, writing that they've "accepted an offer like this when I was dirt broke, and to this day, I regret saying yes."
However, a few more were pragmatic about it. Perhaps there was a way for everyone to win?
"Tell your younger sister. Get it in writing, and in advance. Split it with your younger sister, and have two maid of honours."
What would you do?
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I'd take the money and split it with the other sister. Everyone wins.
You can challenge a will. And I've never heard the term "maid of honour". It's matron of honour if she is married, or chief bridesmaid if not. Maybe I'm just old and it's new terminology, or it's American.
It's not new terminology or American. It's a term that has been around since I was a bridesmaid in the late 80's.
Never heard the term "maid of honour"!!! Do you live under a rock?
You can challenge a will, but it's too late in this scenario. The father passed away last year, the limitation date on a contest is well expired.
Yep you must be old........;)