By LUCY ORMONDE.
There’s nothing quite like working in the media when there’s breaking news.
That was this Wednesday in the Mamamia office when the Labor leadership spill was called. It was my best, worst and every other emotion of the week.
Wednesday was my best in a professional sense because I love the excitement and the adrenalin of a news story; I’m addicted to those moments when my phone is ringing, when Twitter is buzzing, when there’s rolling news coverage on the TV and emotions and running high and…. EVERYTHING.
But Wednesday was my worst in a personal sense because I’ve always been a devoted supporter of Julia Gillard.
When news of the spill broke, we made a decision to take the Mamamia team on location to Mia’s house so that we could watch all the news.
On the way to Mia’s house, we kinda looked like this:
By 7:45 when Thai food was delivered to the house – and we were waiting for the announcement of who was the Prime Minister – we looked like this:
By midnight when it was all over – when the vote was cast, when Julia Gillard had said her final words as Prime Minister, when Kevin Rudd had said his first (for the second time) and when we’d updated posts/Twitter/Facebook approximately 2936 times – we and every other journalist in Australia looked a little something like this:
Anyway. That’s me. And now it’s your turn. What’s your best and worst of the week?
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Im not sure if this is the best place to ask for help, but I don't have anyone else to talk to, and I come here every week and people to seem to give a good balance of advice.
I am in a relationship that is beautiful and I love my partner of 18 months so much. We live together and for the most part get along amazingly. The problem though is that he drinks all weekend. I mean from Friday night, through to Sunday. Most times he doesn't come home on saturday night at all. He stays with his brother and they drink to excess every weekend. I used to hate that he didn't come home, but when he does come home it is worse. He verbally abuses me really badly. Doesn't matter what time he gets home he wakes me up and starts in that he doesn't care about me, that my job is stupid, that I do nothing with my life, that my friends are fat and stupid. That my family is horrible, and even started in at my nephew. And how something is wrong with him. I slept on the lounge last night. I video taped his rage last night, just so he could see how bad it gets, but telling him I did that just made it worse. He said he was going to get his car and he would be right back at 12.30 today and he still hasn't come back. He is at the pub again. Says he will be home soon, I told him to stay at his brothers but he is coming back anyway. I haven't stopped crying, because I don't want him to come home tonight.
Im in my mid 30's and should know better, but this man has been the first man to really really love me. I think he might be suffering from depression and he has never had a serious relationship like this before.
I don't want to end it, but can't go on. I guess my only option is to talk to him about it during the week when I can. Im just scared. I don't know what to do.
Sorry to hear you are in this very difficult situation but......you have to GET OUT! Like, ASAP!! You sound like a very compassionate and tolerant person to have put up with this unacceptable behaviour for this long, but you are not doing yourself any favours by staying, nor him, for as long as you put up with this behaviour, he won't address his problems and make any changes.
It is by far better to be on your own than tolerate this abuse.
I know it's prob not what you want to hear, but how he is treating you is completely unnacceptable.
I wish you all the best
x
I agree that if he insists on coming home and you are scared then you need to not be there when he comes home.
Go and stay with family or a friend. Talk to him when he is sober, tell him that you love him but are worried about him, his health, your safety and for the relationship.
Offer to go to the GP with him, offer to go to a psychiatrist or psychologist with him, or to help him to set up one for himself if he is more comfortable with that.
But importantly:
1. Don't put yourself in a position where you are not safe or don't feel comfortable. I understand that you love him, but you need to love yourself more.
2. Make it clear that you will not be around him when he has been drinking, and stick to it.
3. Make a deal with yourself that if he refuses to get help, then you refuse to be with him.
4. Speaking from experience, there are much better people out there, and you do not deserve to live in fear. If you love him and want to try and fix it, then do that - but put your safety first. If you are staying with him because you are worried that no one else will love you then please get out now.
Life is too short to live in fear.
Please let us know on Wednesday or Friday how you are going.
Anon, it sounds like your boyfriend has a drinking problem. Aside from how he wants to deal with it, you can speak to people in similar situations at AlAnon, or just listen. AlAnon is for people affected by others alcoholicism. (I'm not sure if that's how you write it). Itsounds like your partner is in a destructive place. Look after yourself. Good luck!
What does OMM mean?
On my mind :)
On my mind x