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Introducing MM reader Laura. She writes:
Best: – A “magazine and wine” party with my two best friends (inspired by Bridesmaids, of course).
– Finally watching the season five premiere of Mad Men. Zou bisou bisou…
– Experiencing Mood Theatre’s performance of Sarah Kane’s play Psychosis 4.48 at Subiaco Arts Centre. Perth people: it is wonderful. (Disturbing, but wonderful.) Please buy tickets.
– Reading this Jimmy Little interview with Benjamin Law, a beautiful tribute to an incredible life: “You have to know yourself, trust yourself, and even love yourself to a point. Be yourself and keep trudging on down that path, because we’re all here in life for a reason.” – Jimmy Little
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I would really appreciate others opinions on this..
Do you think the kind of friends you have are a reflection of who you are?
I am a single mother to three children with my two youngest (8&9) living with me. Their father is not in their lives and I have no family in Aussieland. I work full time and would love to have more hours in a day if only for the possibility of having some semblance of a personal life.
I can say in all honesty that non of my friends ever offer to help with my kids. If I ask, it's normally met with hesitation or strict timeframes. I need you to know that I only really ask every six weeks when I need to have my hair done and the last time was for an hour a day befor master 8's birthday so that I can pick up his gift without him knowing. I always offer to have my friend's kids and have them stay over much more often then my friends have them (with no time lines).
But more than that, I often don't get invited to things like bbq's or dinner parties etc. After the article about Amanda who thought women don't like her because she is pretty, I thought maybe my friends just don't like me? But then I am told by them and others differently.. When I ask them why they don't offer help or invite me over occassionaly as I can get quite lonely at times, they say that they just don't think about it as I seem busy or really strong and don't need help..
So, are your friend a reflection of who you are?
Without knowing you, your personality or your children it's hard to advise.
Sometimes though couples will exclude you if your single, it really sucks, for lack of a better word.
Are your children well behaved? As, if not, then you won't be getting offers of help or invites.
I can tell you that I am very happy to babysit my friends children, I really enjoy doing it. I offer without being asked. But they are really really good, not a bother, they are a pleasure to spend time with.
If your children are well behaved, then maybe it is your circle of friends
Best: Went to my first team meeting with the new work crowd in the city. 30 minute meeting, then drinks and food across the road at a lovely old pub. My kind of meeting!
Worst: New bloke has a drinking problem. Universe, you are a complete *%^$$^# sometimes....