'You're not needy, you just have needs.' 20 women on the best advice therapists have given them.

When Ally Lewber said, “I think everyone should see a therapist" at the Vanderpump Rules reunion, I really felt that.

I, myself, have seen my share of mental health pros over the years and I'm happy to admit it. Why wouldn't I be?! Ain't nothing wrong with getting a little help when your mind's having a moment (especially when those moments last for... longer than an actual moment).

I've visited a mix of psychologists, psychiatrists, therapists and counsellors over the years... and while they are all slightly different things with different quals and training and offerings, one thing they all have in common is this: they're all there to help us offload in our times of need, confusion and trauma.

Plus, they can also dish out some bloody good advice.

The kind of advice that really sticks with you. The kind that pops into your mind when things around you are chaotic and you need a gentle reminder that We Can Do Hard Things (okay, that's a Glennon Doyle podcast, but it's still not a bad little piece of advice).

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So in the name of sharing all of that juicy mental-wellbeing goodness we've all accumulated over the years, I thought it might be time to check in with a bunch of women who also turn to the pros when things get tough, to find out what advice from their therapists/psychologists/etc lives in their heads rent-free.

And let me tell you, they did not disappoint.

Whether you turn your fave into a meme for your new Threads account or tuck it away to the back of your mind for later, there's a pearl of wisdom amongst these beauties for everyone to relate to.

Ready? Okay!

1. “Not everyone deals with grief in the same way. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to move on from it and letting it fade in your memory.”

2. "When in periods of stress or high anxiety, shorten your increments of time. Live minute by minute when you need to, until you're ready to go hour by hour. And soon enough you'll be able to plan day by day, and then week by week and look ahead to the future again."

3. "When you can't fall asleep because you're thinking of everything you have to do, ask yourself, can you do something about it now? If so, go do it. If not, write it down and work on it tomorrow."

4. "You are not your thoughts, you are the person who hears them."

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5. "You're not needy, you just have needs."

6. "Write down all the things you like to do and the words you would use to describe yourself, or that someone close to you would use. That's who you are, not what your thoughts tell you."

7. "Feelings are not facts."

8. "When you start to spiral and catastrophise, ask yourself: Is this thought true? Is it helpful?"

9. "You can only control how you decide to respond to things. You can’t control how others treat you."

10. "The way you receive love is probably different to how people show you their love."

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11. “Your husband deals with conflict differently to you. While you go from 0 to 100 and then back down again quickly, he goes from 0 to 100 and STAYS there for a period. He has to work through coming down from that before he can come to terms with what has just happened. Give him space to do that.”

12. "'Do it afraid' – for whenever that self-doubting/imposter syndrome voice creeps in, a reminder to follow through no matter what."

13. "The things that trigger you about other people are a reflection of things within you that you haven't accepted."

14. "When it comes to your inner voice, talk to yourself how you would talk to a friend. If you wouldn't speak to your friend like that, why do you speak to yourself that way?"

15. "Post-nasty split from my first husband, I reconnected with an old flame and my therapist told me to, ‘Grab happiness when you can.’ Everyone else said, ‘It's a rebound.’ Fifteen years on, we're married with two tweens."

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16. "Seek first to understand, then be understood – I later found out it's a quote from Steven Covey, but it's become my main motto in life since it was shared with me."