In every friendship group, there is an organiser.
Recognised by their signature A-type personality and ability to whip up a batch of muffins with minimal notice, they are the mayonnaise holding everything together.
I am this person. And if you’re here, let’s presume you are too.
I think I speak for most of us when I say, although we quite enjoy the smug feeling of knowing we’ve made things happen, it gets old at times.
Here are six things about being the organiser you know to be deeply, deeply true.
Once the organiser, always the organiser.
While it’s likely you initially shouldered this responsibility by choice, putting your hand up to organise a sleepover 13 YEARS AGO was not you saying you wanted to organise every single get-together for the rest of your sorry life.
It was ONE time. Not a binding contract signed in blood.
But unfortunately, people who aren’t us are lazy. Therefore, you really only have your own assertive arse to blame.
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I'd debate the last point. If you constantly rely on one person to do all the organising for your group, always wait for them to make the call to catch up and not really bother making a fuss of them on their special occasions, can you really say you love them and value them? You're just taking advantage of them and treating them like your personal assistant.
My life right there!!!!! I do get slightly frustrated that I always have parties, dinners, family BBQ at my house and we have never ever been asked to one of my friends home ... ever!!!
Yes. It actually goes beyond ''I'm disorganised'' and into ''I'm selfish and rude''. I have ended or at least dramatically curtailed various friendships along the way for this reason. I understand we're all different and not everyone likes organising things. I do. I see that we have different strengths, but if I can sometimes learn to let loose and be spontaneous once in a while, the more, shall we say, carefree among us, can learn, just once in a while, to maybe plan something to which I am invited.