Josephine Martin’s second daughter has been bottle-fed since she was two days old.
For her first, born a little over two years ago now, that simply hadn’t been presented as an option.
“I was a new mum, I wanted to do everything right, and that unquestionably involved breastfeeding,” the 34-year-old Sydney woman told Mamamia.
“Even when I was pregnant, I was convinced breastfeeding was so natural, so important, and that was reinforced so heavily by the hospital, and everyone everywhere, really.”
But when the time came, like many new mums, she experienced difficulty – supply issues, latching problems and mastitis that made feeding a struggle and, at times, acutely painful.
For the first two months, Josephine says the discomfort was bordering on unbearable, but driven by the ‘breast is best’ ideology, she persevered.
“I remember one night I was shaking, crying, begging her to latch. My husband was crying, too,” she said.
Josephine was supported by a Breastfeeding Support Unit midwife at Royal Hospital for Women in Sydney’s inner west, but she says that, despite six months of distress, she was never advised to try bottle feeding.
“When I started introducing formula, I started to realise how much better my life became,” she said.
“My breastfeeding had really impacted my ability to feel joy with my daughter; every time she made a noise I thought ‘Oh f***, I need to feed again’.”
And so the night after giving birth to her second daughter in June this year, her baby screaming from hunger, Josephine asked for a bottle.
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To me, this is "policy" taking precedence over what is best for mum and baby. Hospital policy dictates what choices a mother is "allowed" to make regarding maternity care. Myles was horribly bullied by her "care providers" during her pregnancy and labour because she declined some tests that were hospital "policy". Never mind that she had already had 4 healthy babies in a different hospital where she had made the same choices regarding care.
Hospital policy on baby feeding seems to completely ignore the mother's well-being, and instincts. Mothes need reassurance and support, not bullying to follow hospital policy. If the mum I all the information regarding breastfeeding and bottle feeding, then it is up to her what she chooses. And she should be supported and assisted in that choice.
I love breastfeeding. I breastfed my son for over 18 months and im currently breastfeeding my 8 month old. Breastfeeding for me as been a breeze. Ive never even had mastitis.
But that's not the case for everyone. My friend had troubles with supply with her first. She did go on to breastfeed her successfully. With her second she had loads of milk but her daughter wouldn't latch. Every mum is different and every baby is different, and should be treated as individuals. Real care, compassion, and respect for the mother and baby should take precedence over policy.
It can take up to 5 days for your milk to come in.
Your milk won't come in by the time you leave hospital.
Midwives should not be offering formula before a woman's milk has had a chance to come in, for example, in hospital.
Babies can get very grumpy while waiting for the milk to come in.
Can't believe more women aren't aware of this.