To ask, or not to ask. That is the question.
For so long, humanity pondered whether or not it’s appropriate to ask a woman if she’s got a bun in the oven. In fact, I’m 87 per cent certain the cavemen were wondering themselves as they made fire by rubbing rocks together.
But thousands of years later in 2017, it seems we still haven’t come up with a definitive answer, as proven by a post on motherhood online forum, Mumsnet.
Seeking advice from women who may have been there themselves, one user posted her conundrum.
“My cleaner caught me today as I was leaving – I’m normally out before she comes – and asked if I were pregnant. I had forgotten to put my Pregnacare vitamins in the cupboard and she’d seen,” she wrote.
“Now as it happens, I am [pregnant] – hence the vits – but it’s very early and we haven’t even told family yet.
“We have a good relationship generally but for some reason her question annoyed me. Not sure why exactly….. would it bother you to be asked like that?”
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Unless you can see the babies crowning... DO NOT ASK!!!!!
My husband's family are always asking me (and him!) when we're having a baby - as the youngest of three, all of which have already spawned, it's something they feel we should be getting a move on with. I've always thought asking this, and asking if someone is pregnant, is the height of rudeness. What if we'd been trying and weren't ready to talk about the fact that I couldn't get pregnant? What if I'd recently miscarried early in the pregnancy? What if we didn't want children at all? We're not a super close family so perhaps this isn't a widely relatable wall that I've put up in this case, but I just can't even think of an exception where this kind of question would be mildly acceptable, beyond a doctor or radiologist. For the general public, even friends and family, it's just not okay to assume you can ask something so private, personal and potentially devastating. That being said, some women will be cool with it, but I certainly am not and might just smack the next person who asks.