This post deals with suicide and might be triggering for some readers.
75,000 text messages were exchanged between Alexander Urtula and his girlfriend, Inyoung You, in the two months before Urtula died by suicide.
Most of them came from You, who told the 22-year-old hundreds if not thousands of times to “go die” or take his own life.
The young couple were both studying at Boston University and they had been together for 18 months, but it was a relationship in which You had “complete and utter control,” said Suffolk District Attorney Rachael Rollins.
Here’s the District Attorney’s Office announcing an indictment against You. Post continues after video.
You, 21, subjected her boyfriend to physical, emotional and psychological abuse, making constant threats and demands which Rollins said showed a clear power dynamic between the pair.
In those last two months, the messages became more frequent, more powerful and more demeaning, and were witnessed not just in text messages, but in Urtula’s diary and by both classmates and family members.
Urtula was a standout model student. He’d been studying biology and was due to graduate on May 20, 2019. His proud parents were in town to watch him walk out on stage and receive his diploma.
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Another example for the "women can not be abusers" crowd.
Agog at this one. Evil incarnate. How do you get there? Why did noone intervene?
What was Urtula's inner monologue like to think he was so deserving of profound mistreatment that he kept returning to what would eventually send him to his death?
Reminds me of the Australian guy who did pretty much the same to his disabled girlfriend. May he rot in jail.
Wait... so this boy was clearly a victim in an extremely abusive relationship yet it's his fault for not leaving his gf but when the man is the abuser in another case you say "may he rot" ... are you kidding me?
I hope this is a terrible joke
No one said it was Urtullas fault, they expressed sympathy for how vulnerable he must have been. I think you’re reaching to find some evidence that people don’t think men can be abused by their partners, but no one is here is disputing that they can.
why didnt he just leave her and change his number? to kill yourself over this flat faced fat ugly cow is just stupid.
I wasn't really looking at this through a gender war lens. Abuse and suicide are universally bad.