Is there anything that you consider too gross to do in front of your partner?
A fart? Leg shaving? Tampon insertion? This stuff is awkward to talk about, but your relationship will never work out unless you’re on the same page when it comes to your no-go zones.
Enter The Relationship NOPE Scale.
The Relationship NOPE Scale basically measures what level of gross shit you are prepared to do in front of your partner. Some things, like farting for me, are totally fine. For other people, the idea of farting in front of their significant other is a definite, unequivocal NOPE.
In order to have a successful relationship without an unbearable level of awkwardness, you need to find a partner at the closest possible level to you on The Relationship NOPE Scale.
The following list will help you to measure how you and your partner match up. Go through and put a NOPE next to the items that are a definite no-go for you to either do or see in a relationship. Get your partner to do the same. Then compare answers.
But be warned: You complete The Relationship NOPE Scale at your own risk. It could lead to some very uncomfortable conversations. Or a night of very relieved farting. Only time will tell.
So… Is your relationship over?
How far down the Relationship NOPE scale did you get?
Top Comments
first world problems much. People need to grow up and learn from the book 'everybody poops'. If I had to pretend that I was some mystical unicorn who never ever had a bodily function or missed out on puberty with a lack of body hair and periods then that's his problem, and if he doesn't like it he can fuck right off. If I have to put up with his smelly sweaty hairy arse he can deal with me being a human too.
This whole "class" debate that's been opened up is ridiculous. Just because a woman may feel comfortable to do a wee in front of her partner, doesn't mean she's willing to do it in front of the whole wide world. There's 2 separate issues here that people are getting confused.
As for the list above, I think definite No-No's are: Number 2s, Tampons and period sex, picking your nose. Those sorts of things should be kept private. The rest is negotiable. (in saying that, the first time my partner came and did a wee in the toilet while I hwas having a shower, I was mortified). He'd been in a previous 11-year relationship before me, so nothing phases me. It took me a while to get a little comfy with that sort of stuff, but we often shower together, or one of us will get in just before the other finishes, have a quick nudie cuddle under hot water, then let the other finish.
The fact of the matter is men have most of the issues as women (except for periods and childbirth) so why should they get precious over their woman going to the toilet, if they're happy to do so with the door open.
Also with regard to shaving/waxing pubic hair ... my partner loves to trim my pubic hair for me - I find it a little naughty, but that's half the fun. He knows that after I've had a quick shower, and the trimming has been done, then the fun begins ;)
The last one of the list about eating a large meal in front of partner ... well that just screams "food issues" and really? If you're feeling JUDGED by your partner (even subconsciously) about the food you put in your mouth, then your relationship has some serious problems that need addressing.