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Two men and a baby. This gay couple had a baby via a surrogate in India.


Two dads with twins

This story was on 60 Minutes a couple of weeks ago but I didn't see it at the time. If you didn't either, it's well worth watching. A gay couple in Melbourne who wanted to have a baby together, used donated eggs and a surrogate mother to carry their twins. I know another gay couple….

…who have done the same thing (although not in India) and while I will be totally honest and admit that my initial reaction when I first heard about it was "but a baby needs a mother", I quickly challenged myself to think that one through. Why are two men not able to offer the same amount of love and care to a baby as a mother? There are plenty of deadbeat mothers around…having one didn't help those babies. And I've always believed that anyone who goes to great lengths (and in this case also great expense) to have a child is certainly self-selecting in terms of thinking it through and being ready (as ready as you can ever be).

Yes, it certainly raises some confronting questions about the women in India who live in poverty and are renting out their wombs to support their families. There's that. But there's a lot to smile about too. I always find it incredibly moving to watch footage of babies being born and parents holding them for the first time…..this clip was no exception. I hope 60 Minutes revisits them when the babies are one. It would be fascinating!