They take them to Lebanon, because they know the mothers will never be looked on favourably there.
But there are other places as well, Egypt, North Africa and the Middle East, New York, New Zealand, the UK.
Australia has the highest rate per capita of international parental child abductions in the world –two or three children taken illegally in or out of the country by a parent every single week.
The Australian reports that of the 114 children removed from Australia in the last financial year in custody disputes only 54 have been returned.
That’s 60 children taken by a parent – under circumstances we can’t imagine – who remain unable to be reunited with their Australian parent.
Over the past two weeks we have watched the case of Sally Faulkner play out before our eyes. We have watched her pain, her anguish and the extreme length she went to to try – and fail – to have her children returned.
But her case is far from isolated – and her failure to have her children returned is far from unusual.
As in the case of Sally Faulkner Lebanon is a popular choice – especially for fathers who take their own children – as it is not a signatory to the Hague Convention.
Sally Faulkner's ex-husband now has custody of their children. Via Nine News and Facebook.
Rosa Saladino a lawyer who specialises in the field of child abduction told the ABC last year that if both countries involved in the case are signatories to the Hague Convention, there are legal avenues for the remaining parent to have their child returned.
But in the case of countries that are not a signatory, the legal avenues for getting a child returned are much harder.
"There is some assistance offered by the Commonwealth Government, there's a scheme of financial assistance to assist with payment of the legal fees," she said.
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One thing annoying about all the kerfuffle over a nasty relationship breakdown is the increased possibility of trickier flying with only one parent - My partner regularly flies with our child internationally and already some countries are off limits for us to travel separately because it is just too risky that flights are going to be missed as exiting customs may not allow only one parent to travel with a child without all the appropriate paperwork (which can be a serious logistical challenge to not possible within a given time frame, depending on the country). The thought that "to-be-sure-to-be-sure-to-be-sure" is going to get more "to-be-sure" on customs checks is not a happy one.
This 60 Mins story has produced so much opinion and conjecture about this issue – much of it passionate, some educated, but nearly none, thank goodness, from a place of personal experience.
But I am one who has been through this.
I am someone who has seen their children taken abroad and who has pursued the Hague Convention seeking their return. So trust me when I tell you I understand the desperation of a father or a mother who has not only lost their children, but who has been crushed by the injustice of the situation…it comes from a place of real pain.
But as comments bounce between the actions of the father, the desperation of the mother, the ignorance and arrogance of the 60 Minutes team, the welfare of the children is hardly mentioned.
And it is this welfare that must be prioritised ahead of any personal needs of either parent – irrespective of their intense pain. And it must be prioritised ahead of who’s right or wrong – irrespective of the perceived injustice.
In the end, it is all that matters.
I withdrew my Hague Application because my children were drawn into the middle and I refused to have them part of that. My heart physically aches for them every day but I have to believe my decision was right…for them.
Even through the absolute desperation that a parent may feel, the children’s welfare must be the priority.
And BTW, it shouldn't matter, but from some of the comments so far it appears worthy of mention - I am a father.