This isn't sex education. This is sexist, homophobic nonsense.

“Q. Is it OK to go braless?

A. Without a bra, your nipples are much more noticeable and a distraction and temptation for men…The Bible says not to cause anyone else to sin. Are you putting sexual thoughts about your body into guys’ heads? If you are showing a lot of skin you probably are.”

“Q. I have known for a long time that I am gay, but I know the Bible says it is wrong. Still, I can’t make these feelings go away. What can I do?

A. The Bible is very clear that homosexuality is a sin. Some people’s gay feelings never go away, but you can chose (sic) not to act on them. Still, this is very serious. You need to find a trusted counsellor to talk about this issue right away.”

In case you missed it, this is the hideous advice being dispensed to Grade 6 students through a Christian education program run by Access Ministries. The pamphlet which featured these question/ answer scenarios was handed out to primary school students from Torquay College, as part of an- *ahem*- “education” session on relationships.

I don’t know what’s worse here: teaching girls that women are responsible for inciting rape (with their tempting rape-baity nipples and all), or teaching students that homosexuality is not only sinful but also something which can be ‘corrected’ with counselling.

Excuse me while I go vomit.

And of course it doesn’t end there. The pamphlet also claims to “expose the lie of safe sex”, stating that condoms condone promiscuity. And then there is this:

“Q. How far can you go [sexually] before you are no longer pure?

A. Let’s put it this way: How much dog poop stirred into your cookie batter does it take to ruin the whole batter.”

Sorry, what? Purity? Dog poop? Cookie batter? Call me crazy, but anyone who thinks that sex is comparable to eating dog-crap, is clearly doing it wrong.

It seems absurd to me that in this day and age, we still allow sex and relationship education to be taught by anti-sex, homophobic individuals who seem to have a penchant for slut-shaming and victim blaming.

What young people actually need is accurate, relevant information presented in an accessible and compassionate manner. Nor is it sufficient just to teach kids about puberty and where babies come from, while ignoring topics like consent, pleasure, desire, intimacy, relationship boundaries as well as the darker topic of dating violence.

After all, according to White Ribbon, one in three sexually active Year 10 girls has been pressured, forced or coerced into unwanted sex (ie. sexual assault). Another study has found that 33 percent of Australian teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by the person they are dating.

If we actually want to address this situation, we need to get real. Learning to put a condom on a banana or learning to correctly label the fallopian tube on a cross section diagram is nowhere near sufficient (although the basics still matter).

Teens need far more than just sex-ed. They need relationship-ed. And they need opportunities to talk about the good stuff (intimacy, desire, pleasure)  while also being able to critically examine topics such as power abuse, coercion, gender roles, homophobia and the many myths surrounding sexual violence.

What they don’t need is grotesque, sexist misinformation.

Young people deserve better. We owe it to them. Let’s insist they get education that supports and equips them, instead of shaming and alienating them.

Nina Funnell is the co-author of Loveability: An Empowered Girl’s Guide to Dating and Relationships which is available now.

Do your kids learn religious education at school? What about sex education? Does that happen at home or at school?