Some people have some trouble moving on. It happens. But after 6 years? Really? So it is for one MM reader whose fiance's ex girlfriend is still rather involved in not just his life but the life of his family and friends….
Angela* writes:
If this has already been covered please let me know, but I have a feeling there may be many MM readers that can relate! My issue is with my fiance's ex girlfriend. They broke up about 6 years ago and were together for about 5 years.My issue isn't about him wanting her or vice versa, she is married with a child and we are getting married soon, but what I get annoyed with is how she still seems to be a part of our life in little ways. She still contacts his friends and family which in itself I don't have a huge problem with, ok maybe just a little one!
But she'll talk about us and has actually rung me in the past telling me about a dinner she had with my fiance's brother and how she knew all about what we were up to. She writes all over our friends' and his family's Facebook pages (she added me as a friend a while back so I see it all) and sometimes I don't know why I get so annoyed.
I've often wondered if our friends (originally my fiance's friends) and his family have ever stopped and thought about how it makes me feel.
I know she spent 5 years with them, but I always thought part of breaking up was to maintain a respectful distance etc.
For a short period she worked where I used to work and someone asked me about my fiance's family. She started answering for me and telling our colleague all about his family. I got so pissed off that I just walked off.I know rationally that all this shouldn't matter, but I still can't help getting the shits everytime I see something on Facebook or hear about her trying to catch up with my fiance's friends.
Maybe the MM readers can offer some advice, or kick my butt and tell me to snap out of it!
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Wow i completely understand! I am too getting married and my fiance ex is still in the picture.
By that i mean she is close to his entire family.
My fiance even approuched his family and asked them out of respect to me. They should cut all contections with her.
Sad thing is they choose his ex over their own only son. To make things worse my fiances sisters never gave me a chance to even get to know me. Till today they ignore me.
Also on facebook his ex proudly displays how much she loves my fiances family and how she is so excited to be doing this and that with them. Which you are absolutely right when it comes to being competitive. Because it makes you feel that it should be you saying those things. And not the ex.
The only advice i can give " cause i struggle myself to figure out all this rubbish" is that you cant control people! People have a life to live, just like you do.
If your fiance loves you and he does not entertain his ex then you very lucky cause you won something that she "ex" will never be able to have.
Its hard to ignore it all. But try avoid functions that the ex enda up going too. We always check if she goes, and if she does we dont go. And slowly people see the reason why.
But thank God i have a wonderful family of my own so we tend to be alot closer to my family than his so it helps us in a way.
Be strong!
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