By NATALIA HAWK
Today at Mamamia, we’re busting out the big questions. About condoms. Mainly because I’ve found myself in the midst of a couple of debates on the very subject in recent weeks.
Who knew people were so passionate about such a small thing? So we’re shifting them over to you in the hope that you may have some answers. Here goes…
1. The first question: Who buys them?
I’ve heard plenty of arguments over whose responsibility it is to schlep to Priceline and stand in the ‘sexy’ aisle, pondering the benefits of glow-in-the-dark. And it seems like there’s no general consensus amongst the masses.
It seems like most of the girls I’ve asked remain firmly in the camp that it’s the boys who should be providing their own. “It’s him who wears them, after all,” one friend proclaimed. “I wouldn’t expect him to buy my pill or my diaphragm if I used one.”
On the other hand, blokes tend to disagreee completely – “It should be a joint responsibility,” said one. “Everyone should just have some sitting in their bedroom drawer.”
My gay friends had nothing to add to the conversation because “there’s usually free ones just scattered all through the clubs.” Well – no conclusions drawn there….
2. Where are they being worn?
On penises, obviously. (Or on bananas if you’re teaching a sex ed class.)
Seriously, though – this is the exact question Planned Parenthood is asking teenagers of the Great Northwest in the USA. It’s all part of their mission to encourage – and normalise! – safe sex.
Top Comments
The "checking in for safe sex" thing is brilliant - I wouldn't use it, though. Contraception is definitely a joint responsibility and I'm happy to get through the awkwardness to buy condoms if he's forgotten, and I'll get on the Pill so I know my partner and I are safe. But given that he and I are both in our first relationship I wouldn't even know how to start having that conversation.
Seriously I find it amusing that people think that sex ed will fix everything. People are not logical and men do not like wearing condoms. I know numerous men who are supposedly highly intelligent but hate wearing condoms. so when the woman they are intent on shagging says "Dom't worry I am on the pill" or "Don't worry I can't get pregnant, cos......"', they throw caution to the wind and have unprotected sex. One might think they would be concerned about STDs and use a condom regardless ( as they d not know these women) but they would rather risk a STD than use a condom. ANyway, surprise , surprise their sexual partners announce they are pregant and are having the babies. It happens all the time, and will keep happening, no matter how much we go on about condoms. Men do not want to use condoms and SOMe women want to use pregnancy to trap men into relationships, or want to get pregnant etc